Planning On a Family
From Jen: Jake and I are planning on having children when he is out of the military. We plan on moving back to Cleveland in about 2 1/2 years, and we are going to buy a house before we make a family. I decided to stay in Hawaii while he is in Iraq, so by the time he gets out of the military, I should have my nursing degree. Jake plans on being a firefighter and also going for a degree in business. We both want a house in the country where no one can bother us, since we do better when we are alone. Jake and I are really looking forward to the future together. One day we will be old with seven children and lots of grand babies!Labels: Engaged, Engaged and Underage, Jake, Jen, Underage
posted by MTV Engaged @ 8:19 AM
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25 Comments:
Hi,
I'm 18 and my fiancee and I are about to get married in March. He is 19 and also a private in the US Army and we've also been dating since 10th grade. I enjoyed watching your episode on MTV because it reminded me of what I'm about to do. It is so nice to here you guys are doing well. Congradulations and God Bless.
I watched your episode & at first I was worried, because of the way you two fought. But then I saw the way you both looked at each other at your wedding and I knew, you really love each other. My husband and I were just 21 when we got married and I think no one thought it would work for us, but here we are now, 10 years later with two beautiful children & we love each other now as much as we did then. He even put me through Nursing school. Try & remember trust & honesty is everything in a marriage. Make time for each other as well as for friends. Your life together has just begun, but it doesn't mean you have to give up completely the life you had before. You can have your new family as well as your old friends and relatives too. It will make you both happier in the long run and make you appreciate each other even more.
Hi,
Im 18 also and i just got married in October 2006. Your relationship has reminded me alot of me and my Husband due to the fact we've been together since the 10th grade, that he is a PFC in the Army and im a nursing student also.We would have our up and downs but now married life has united us as 1. Now were just waiting for our 5 kids to come along. Good Luck in Life Best Wishes....
First and Foremost.. Congratulations! It must be something to really be married.. yet feel rediculously the same since.. not much has changed. You two didnt move in together (he in iraq and you in HI) so you'll really feel the effects when he gets back for good. I've been with my fiancee for a year and a half and living with him for just about the entire time. I have some advice.
Pick your battles wisely. Example: If he's yelling at the guys he plays with in Halo 2 on the xbox on line... just let him... its not worth the fight. But.. if he's out with his friends till 2 am... and he hasnt really called you or TOLD you about it.. then by all means.. have at it.. ya know what i'm saying?
Well.. i've got a cake to make.. his birthday is today. Again congratulations..
oh.. and when you live together.. make sure you have a good set of pots and pans.. because they come in handy... trust me.. burning the eggs in the morning... makes for a lousy day!
~Lydia in California
Thanks to all the Army wives that wrote to me.
Its nice to see that other couples in the military got
married as young as I did and are still at it. For all
the girls who are in a relationship and are young, if
you love him- keep him. I think about it like
this...If you love him here, you will love him in
Iraq. Marrying Jake now made me realize a lot. With
him getting deployed sometime this year or next, we
need to spend all the time we have, together. Marriage
is hard, but well worth it. Most of the time I go to
bed next to the person that I love and wake up next to
the person that I love. It couldn't get any better
than that and when he is gone...I have all these days
to look back on and remember.
My husband and I have been together sice 10th grade too, but why not go to college first? We got married this past November after 10years together, and I do think that 10 was a little long, but why not wait a little while. You should at least be old enough to have champagne at your wedding.
First of all to the last comment...why does it matter if you are old enough to drink champagne at the wedding? That was probably the least of my worries on my wedding day. I married my husband after a four year relationship and I was still only 18. People don't seem to realize what it is like in the military. If I didn't marry my husband when I did it would've been the biggest mistake of my life and my husband will be the first to tell you that it was the best decision he ever made. He is a sergeant in the Army currently in Afghanistan. Things are hard when he's gone, but if you truly love your husband and you're meant to be together then everything will work out fine. We now have a son and are more in love than ever. Just because you're young doen't mean you should wait...just know that you are extremely lucky to have found the right person so early in your life.
AHHH....U GUYS WILL HAVE A BEAUTIFUL FAMILY!! AND BEING ABLE TO LIVE ON WITH LIFE WHILE HE IS AWAY FROM YOU AT TIMES SHOWS YOU ARE A VERY STRONG PERSON....AND THE WAY U WANTED HIM ALL 4 U ON THE SHOW IS NOT BEING SELFISH OR BRATTY BUT I AM SURE YOU JUST MISS UR HUNNY AND WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH HIM B 4 HE HAS TO LEAVE AGAIN!! I UNDERSTAND
KR
"Anonymous said...
First and Foremost.. Congratulations! It must be something to really be married.. yet feel rediculously the same since.. not much has changed. You two didnt move in together (he in iraq and you in HI) so you'll really feel the effects when he gets back for good."
The effects of living apart for a year are hard. When you say not much has changed, you obviously are not aware of how hard it is to be a military wife at times... And that a lot changes when you say "I do."
From a former Army wife (who was married at 20) congratulations and best wishes. Thank you to you and your husband for your sacrifices. I have been married for five years to my wonderful husband, and wouldn't wish for anything different!
I also got married young, I was 20. We've been married for two months. He's a sgt in the army and is stationed at schofield. I dropped everything to come out here with him and I don't regret it at all. Though I don't like Hawaii, I'm happy to just be here with him, wake up and go to bed next to the one person I would give everything for. Congratulations! Deployments suck but in the end, they are the true test of your love for one another. And if you can make it through that, you can make it through anything...
I was only 20 when I married my husband who was 23 at the time. He is a commissioned officer in the Army. We had little girl 14 months ago and have another one on the way! He is deployed to Afghanistan and it's hard but it is so worth it. Being married to a military man can be trying sometimes, but even through the hard times you may always remember how much how much you love each other! I am so happy for you!
Yeah i am 19 almost 20 and my boyfriend who is in the army is 18. and like u said jen if u love him keep him. thats exactly what i am doing. even though it is hard at times being away from him i can do it and he is such an amazing man who i am soo glad that i got to meet and and happy being with.
Hi! My husband is stationed in Hawaii too! I wish you guys good luck with the deployment. I still havent been through one yet. You guys seem like a great couple. Good luck.
ps. I want like 7 babies too! My husband thinks i'm crazy.
Hi! My I just wanted to say how much i loved your weeding. You guys looked so cute and happy! I'm also an army wife stationed in HAwaii. I wanted to wish you luck on the deployment.
Aloha
hi my name is yunet im 18 years old and i got married when i was 16 and i have a baby thats all my life! i wanna wish you guys the best i saw the episode yesterday and wow it was fun lol...especially that striptease part lol bueno god bless and dont let anybody brak this beautiful thing you guys have thats call "love" take care...yunet.
Hi,
Just wanted to congratulate you all on your marriage...No matter what people say you all know that you love each other so what other people say dont matter...My fiancee had to get me to realize that...People in my family had a lot to say about our age difference (he's 26 about to be 27 and im 20) when we first got together but no matter what they say i love him and thats all that matters and now we have a beautiful 4mon. old daughter and planning to get married next year!!!! Again congrats to you all and I wish you all the best of luck!!!!
Hi Jen, I have been reading all of these blogs and I think it is great that you have found a support system on the www. I married by husband when I was 19 years old, a month before he left for basic training. 7 years later we are still living happily ever after. We are currently going through our 4th deployment and we have 2 children. My advice to you is to hang in there. It does take some getting used to. Trust in God and make plenty of GOOD friends (as I'm sure you have found out, there are alot of military wifes that like to play the field.) Again just know that your not alone and continue to finish your education. God bless.
Hi, I'm Cassandra, 20 and my husband is David, 21. We got married a year and a half ago, a week before my 19th birthday. David is also in the military, the Navy, and currently deployed in the Persian Gulf and won't return until September 07. Getting married young was difficult and being a military wife is even harder, but just as the two of you, we wouldn't change it for the world. I believe that young couples can have successful a marriage as well. Good luck to you both!
Fammily is the best thing you can have. I m 23 years and and I got married at the age of 18 years old, to my husband chris he was also 18 years old when we got married. Married right out of boot camp he is in the us navy. So that I could move and be with him right away. Miliatry life is not easy we have been in the military 5 years and have lived in 5 diff places moving around, My husband was on the subs so he missed th birth of are first born son it was very hard. We have 3 children now and im am preg now im due on april 25 2007 I cant wait.I would do anything for my family my kids are my world. I love to have a big family it can be hard at times cause when my hubbys gone im the mom and dad. But when his home its worth it. The military is good but it could be better for th familys. Just when yo guys get out of the military make sure you both know wht you will be doing with jobs... It might be hard at first but with good everything will work out just fine.. Make sure you get the right friends cause I know some military wifes can be mean... and tofaced .... GOOD LUCK WITH THE FAMILY...... its nice to have one
Have you guys ever thought about doing a reality tv show similar to Nick and Jessica "The Newlyweds", that'll be something different.
I think it's great that you two made the big leap. I was only 19 when I got married, and my hubby was 20, we were both in the Army, it's been 2.5 years now, and we are so happy! I know personally that being in the military, married, and deployed is one of the hardest things you will face, but if you can survive that, than you can survive anything! Good luck!
hi jake and jen,
I'm 21 and I have a boyfriend who's a private in the US army, but he's all the way in Italy. We've talked about getting married and your episode was a big help. Thank you for that. I watched it as much as it is aired. All i can say is that just have lots of strenght, HUMANGOUS trust with each other, lots and lots and never ending love, and most of all, have FAITH in your relationship and in God.
I can understand about havin kids my husband who is in the Air Force and I dont want kids until we are done travling. He is stantioned in Italy and I will join once I graduate from high school. We talked about it and I cant wait to start a family with him but we want to see the world want to travl we dont want to come back to the states anytime soon. Congrats. It takes a special kind of person to love a military man
Just wanted to share alittle bit of my life also...I to am a military wife. My husband and I knew each other since high school but didnt date until a year later after we graduated. We both got married when we were 20. Living together for the first time was tough. We would fight all the time and I would scare him by saying I'm gonna go back home(which seems to not work anymore for him lol). But anyway, I to want my husband to get out of the Air Force asap because it gets so LONELY being far away from your family:( And its hard to make friends when your moving around so much. My days consists of staying home all day by myself and desperately looking for a job(which I am absolutely sick and tired of doing). But luckily I started school so that I can apply to NURSING schools also.
YOU GUYS ARE THE MOST GORGEOUS COUPLE.! MY FIANCEE ISNT IN THE MILITARY BUT i STiLL LOVED YOUR EPiSODE.. i THiNK YOUR SO PRETTY & YOU GUYS MAKE A GREAT COUPLE!! CONGRADULATIONS & STAY STRONG!!
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