Chris and Amanda: The Married Life
Amanda - Being married is absolutely great and I love it! I’ve even suggested it to my sister Eve. She is 23. Chris and I are enjoying life and think everything is great. We are happy with our choice and love being married. I don't believe some of the things I said during the whole wedding process, and think it's embarrassing because I was just stressed out. And I said a lot of things I didn't mean. I mean really… I love Chris’s sisters to death and I didn't really care if they read the poems or not. To tell you the truth, I kinda feel like I was pushed into saying something. I was just frustrated with the whole thing and said some things I didn't mean. Planning a wedding is stressful and if anyone reading this is getting married, please remember it's not just your wedding. It's your fiancés’ to! Oh, and your mother's and your mother in-law’s. Don't forget that.Chris – Hi. The wedding was perfect. I loved seeing my family, and Amanda was absolutely beautiful(she still is). Everything is going great, and we love being married. We both have been working a lot lately, with Amanda giving massages and me in the lab. We are just loving life.
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Amanda, seeing that you may be a mother soon if your child decides not to be mormon will you still attend the wedding and in your eyes will the marriage be real? Family should be the most important thing any religion that does not allow someone to be there is no good. What would you do if chris decided not to get married because his family could not be there would you change your mind? The necklace was nice but really does not replace seeing the wedding. For all this it better last.
Congratulations and good luck!
Dear Amanda and Chris!
Congratulations on your marriage! You are so brave to invite MTV.
I understand how difficult it can be when your faith and morals are different from the family you marry into. While it is difficult at times and trust me, I know, remember that they are his family, his roots, and the family tree of your future children. Always support and encourage his relationship with his mother and family. Show your true, unconditional love to him and be the supportive wife he will need as he is also challenged balancing his faith and his family.
I was so impressed that you invited his family over for dinner. Even though it may be difficult at times, always try to keep the communication and family lines open. Keep his sisters in your thoughts also. He is the only big brother they have and you want them to be able to come to him when they need to and hopefully see you as a trusted friend also one day. Include his family when ever you can. Remember, they may not always accept your invitation, but always try. They may not appreciate your effort, but you do it for your husband, not for them.
Bless you both and your marriage.
Chris & Amanda,
I"m a long time member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. When I saw your story I was very impressed how well you handle each question about why non-members couldn't enter into the temple. Thank you for setting such a good example for all lds members.
Just watched your wedding on mtv and i was so happy you decided to do the ring ceromony. Im glad you took his mom in consideration. Imagine how you would have felt if your mom was not allowed to be at your wedding. Im getting married in June and i quikly learned that your in laws are your family too so never forget they are just as important or it can cause problems that you dont need in the marriage. Congrats to both of you guys!!
I just have to say that the way Amanda acted (bratty) proves that she is too young to get married. She treated her mother in law badly. That is putting it all nicely, I would definitely say it differently to her face!
You both were very adorable. I understood Amanda's frustration as just being flustered, don't be too worried about it. I applaud both of your commitments to you religion even though I don't share your beliefs. I know it must have been really hard at times to please people without losing yourselves. Good luck in your future!
Hey, I just watched your show and it makes me remember how much i love my boyfriend. We are only in high school but hope to get married soon after. I only wish we turn out as well as you two. Best of wishes and God Bless.
I dont know if Chris and Amanda get to see this, but if you guys do let me say that I am very happy that you let MTV be involved with your wedding so that the rest of the world could see. I am mormon also and was married in the Houston Texas Temple to my husband Robert in September of 2005 ( I was 19 and 11 months old at the time).His mom is a member but had been inactive for several years and was unable to attend the temple ceremony although she was very understanding about it because she was a memeber. I hope that this episode wont put a damper on other peoples opinion of the church, I think it was very tastefully done. If you guys to get to read this I would love to meet you guys somehow . I hope you two are very happy in your marriage as I definately am.
Corinne Attaya
It's unbelievable how selfish Amanda is (as portrayed by the show). It made me angry throughout the whole episode. I think maturity comes with age.
As a teacher, I really hope they wait to have kids.
i think that you both look happy together and i hope that you and him love each other as much as you can don't let other people tell you that you are young to be married that is your problem not theres ok bye happy and prove to everyone that there wrong for saying that your to young.
Well i'm so happy it worked out for you two. Me ane my boyfriend are in high school and plan to get married soon after. I hope we will turn out just as you and make it through all the drama. Thank you and God Bless.
I felt sooo bad for chris's mother! I just don't think for any reason not even religion that its right to not include the grooms mother in ALL parts of the wedding! That is her only son and she really wanted to see you get married at the temple. I just thought it was soo sad!
First of all, I loved your wedding dress Amanda. Second I think it was great having the ring cerimony, I'm sure it was hard planning two different events, but from what I saw it was all beautiful. Good luck on your life together.
This might be a little off the wall, but here's a question for Chris:
Did your roommate go to the wedding/ring ceremony? The episode showed you leaving your apartment and he acted like it was just a normal day. "See ya." I mean, did he even wish you luck? I just thought it was a little odd...
I know it is so hard being raised mormon my self and marrying a catholic boy. You want to make everyone happy but after all it is your day. I thought you handled it well and compromised the best you could and I thought it turned out great!!!! don't let anyone tell you that you are selfish it is your day and that is how it should be. God bless you and good luck !!!! I MARRIED YOUNG TOO AND IT WORKS
Ha ha.. Who would have thought Chris would be on TV! Congrats to you both! And best of luck!
-Dayna
Yes family is important but what people don't understand about the Mormon faith is WHY they have a sealing ceremony in the temple.. BECAUSE family IS important!! You are setting an example for your children. You are sealing yourself to your spouse and your family not only in this life, but after this life. That is why. I am a convert to the Church and my family was wonderful and amazing when I was married in the temple. They didn't throw a fit OR act selfish that they couldn't be there. They knew it was important to me and my future. When you're married, in ANY religion, you are starting your OWN family. That doesn't mean you are selfish. You have to do what is right in your heart. It will affect YOU for the rest of your life. I too had a ring ceremony and my family was so pleased that I thought of them and wanted to include them any way I could. They understood completely. I am sorry MTV showed Amanda as being spoiled and selfish, which I'll admit, there were times I thought the same. But there is a ton of footage I'm sure was edited out. Don't knock the Mormon faith because you saw ONE thirty minute episode of someones life that was edited. Congratulations Amanda & Chris -- I hope you AND Chris' family are more understanding after this.
I'm not LDS so I can't completely understand but I have more than a few friends who are. The two who are married were much more in control of their situation. They were understanding of everyone's feelings and took them into consideration. Never did either of them act as selfishly or as self indulgently as you have.
Imagine dragging his family there for a 5 minutes ceremony because it's what you want? How trite!
I'm glad that you have stood up for your religion but don't you think that the way acted about everything not inside the temple gave your in laws a bad impression?
I, too, am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. I had to deal with a similar situtation. Only my brother and myself are members of the church so when I got married my father and other family members could not see me get married.
It's too bad that some family members could be so insensitive to what the bride and groom wish. I chose not to have a ring ceremony and have no regrets about it either.
I wish Amanda and Chris all the best. God Bless.
Good luck to the both of you. I commend you both for staying strong and sticking to your beliefs. You will be blessed for it. It's really hard for non mormons to understand, but you two did great. Best wishes and God Bless!!
So what did Amanda give Christopher's mother? My computer is so slooow I can't find out and I'm dying to know! LOL
I just got married this last December into a family of the Mormon religion. I am not a member myself, however I have lived in Utah all of my life and I am completley familiar with it. I had to do a very similar thing, but in the opposite direction. I was married in my parents home, surrounded by my family and friends. The next day, we packed up and had an open house in a mormon church for his mothers 350 guests. I never once complianed about it. I even had to change the date of my wedding to make it possible. I DO NOT in any way shape or form believe in the LDS faith, however, in any situation that I need to be giving to the faith of my family, I do so without hesitation. I hope that one day you will learn the same. His mother is his MOTHER. You need to sit down and think about the fact that she raised him to be the person that you love, and that you should resepect her lifestyle and her beliefs as much as she has yours. You are no different. There is no right or wrong, your beleifs are no more right then hers. Period. I don't beleive in my in-laws faith and never will, however, I will never see myself as "right" and them "wrong." I wish you guys the best, I'm sure you're having as much fun in your new wedded bliss as I am.
Oh my goodness! I have just read about all of you who can't wait to marry your high school boyfriend....PLEASE PLEASE wait. You are so very young and many life experiences to come upon you. I'm 25 and waited until then to get married (same guy since 18). Why marry so young when you haven't even been to college and don't even have a good job established? If it is true love, your love will last until you are old enough to make a sound decision about your future. Good luck to all, Marriage is not just about waking up next to your sweetie.....marriage's constantly have to be worked at.
congrats to u two hope works
GOD BLESSSSSS!!!!!!!! OMGZ!!!
After watching the show all I can say is that I commend you on getting married, but why so young? If you guys really love each other you can wait until your older, I have a friend who is in a four year relationship and they are engaged. They decided to wait until they finish school and are finacially secure to get married. I don't want to get married until I'm 26, 7 years from now. I hope you guys make it but most likely you won't. I hope Chris's mother can at least be there for that ceremony.
Hey Amanda & Chris!
Just wanted to say congrats and Amanda I know how you feel....I am getting married in September and it's very frustrating and things can get out of hand very quickly and its easy to say things you don't mean...And even though your mother-in-law wasn't pleased, I'm glad you went ahead with the wedding how you wanted it. It's your & Chris' wedding, not hers. And you did consider her feelings by having the ring ceremony, I thought that was very nice of you.
Congrats again and good luck!
I am LDS and was in a situation opposite of Amanda--my husband's family was able to join us in the temple and mine was not. It took a while to help my family, especially my sister who I've always been close with, to be okay with not being there for my wedding. Like you, we chose to have a ring ceremony for those who couldn't see the marriage and I thought you both handled that very well! It's difficult to please everyone and even though that strain was portrayed on the show, your maturity was also portrayed very well. I wish you both happiness and blessings for the future and thank you for showing others out there your commitment to your beliefs and to each other.
Congrats to the both of you. Very interesting to see a "Mormon Wedding." I live in SLC but I am not of your faith. I love the fact that you Amanda grew as a woman and decided to go forth with the Ring Ceremony. A wedding is about all the family members uniting not just the husband and wife. It is sad that families not of your faith are not allowed to participate. Hopefully you will set a trend!!
Dear Amanda and Chris,
CONGRATULATIONS! First and foremost, you both did a great job depicting what true frustration is when planning a wedding. I cannot even begin to understand the added complications of trying to accomodate two religions on a day that is supposed to unify families and represent a celebration of the love between two people. Overall, you both made some compromises and it worked for you. Don't let any of the harsh comments deter you from any efforts you made to connect with eachother's families.
There was a lot of great advice offered to you both about praying together and remembering to keep the lines of communication open so I will not repeat it. I will just add, being a newly married woman (dec 2006) that this is a new experience for the both of you and it is very important to be patient with your spouse. My husband and I didn't move in together until we were married and it has been a very enlightening experience. I wish you both all of the luck.
Darnella
Can I just say how great it was to see you to getting married in the temple. I couldn't belive it when it came on. I'm still only in high school but my boyfriend and I are already planning on being married. I was scared about missing out on the amazing parts of a traditional ceremony, but after seeing your episode it made me realize how special it will be to have a temple marriage.Thank you so so much for standing up for what you belive in!!
I watched your show. I am LDS. I was also married young (20). Though it was 14 years before I was able to marry my husband in the temple. Being LDS is so hard for others to understand. The one thing everyone needs to understand is that temple marriage has everything to do with sacred, not selfishness, or secrets. Any subject (including religion), not understood, is quick to be thought wrong. So much emphasis was placed on the "strangeness" of LDS beliefs and ordinaces. I hope that others will stop and think how "strange" things may have been for Amanda. Being raised LDS, our beliefs feel natural to us, just as those raised Catholic, Baptist, or any other religion feel their beliefs are natural to them. If there was any advice I could offer any couple being married is that they sould take Christ's example. Treat others as you yourself would want to be treated. Yes, America, we are Christian, too. My advice to any "underage" couple. Take time to learn about each other, establish yourselves as a couple, and then start the family. Make sure you have an identity as a couple. You will need it, because ask any mother and father...you will all but lose any identity but that as a Mom or Dad, when the children get here. For Chris and Amanda, my advice...the standard Primary answers...Scriptures, Prayer, and Family Home Evening. And don't wait too long to go back to the Temple, others are always waiting for it.
so i watched the show and i am totally proud of you guys... i live in utah also and things get a little crazy when religion gets involved... cudos to you to... but there was a post earlier about your room mate and i had the same question... did he not go and not care or what and also i think i know him... i think he was a bunch of my classes in high school so i just wanted to find out if im right... plus my boyfriendthinks he knows you to...
Congratulations! My husband and I were in a similar situation when we got married. I am a convert to the church and the only member in my family. It was very hard to not have my family there during our sealing. But the bottom line is that your wedding is just that...YOUR wedding day. It is not your parents or his parents day. My family was sad that they couldn't be there but they respected how important the decision to be married in the temple was to me and my husband. They never gave me a guilt trip or made it hard on me. It was more important to them that I enjoy my day and have the wedding I dreamed of. I am eternally grateful to them for their love for me and being able to step aside and let the day be about me and Matt.
We got married 2 weeks after my 19th birthday. That was almost 7 years ago and we are stronger than ever. We now have 2 beautiful children and remain strong members of the church. Good luck to you guys. You have already given your marriage the strongest foundation you could by marrying in the temple!
~Sarah
it was a necklace from the ring ceremony
well first off congrats! that is a huge step to make in life, i do agree that there is a thing as too young to get married, but some poeple think that is the worst thing on the planet, heaven forbid a couple get actually get married and make a commitment in life! as i watched the show though it made me mad, it seemed like all they wanted to speculate on how weird mormons are.......i just think there are lots of things poeple dont understand, so why criticize what you dont know about.....the temple isnt to keep people out, being married in the temple isnt about really your parents or family, if they can come thats great but it really about the couple and being able to be sealed for all of time and eternity to one another
Hey guys! Watching your show was so, so fun. I'm just about to convert and the temple marriage is something I am very much looking forward to. You two seem very happy together, and enjoy your new life!
Amanda- we all say things we don't mean at times. It's all good. I cannot imagine the stress of having my wedding taped on mtv... eek!
Have fun!
I bet it's hard for someone who isn't LDS to understand why they can't go to the temple. Tough thing to deal with, but you guys did a pretty good job explaining it. Chris' mom seemed pretty cool with it in the end though.
I don't understand why Amanda didn't want a ring ceremony, some of my married friends have had one, and I think they're kinda neat. Yours turned out really nice.
Congrats!
Chris & Amanda,
I was raised a LDS member. Watching the show i understood reasons ...ect. although currently inactive, And having some type of cermony was a great thing to do. Not all n'laws get to have a cermony put on just for them. Great thinking! I was married young also 2 wks after I turned 18, we have now been currently married for over 3 1/2 years. I know you will make it! You will get, what not all couple's get... to grow and mature with eachother! Its nice to have someone by your side during these years!! Congrats!!!
Good for you guys! As long as everyone in your families (i.e. Chris' mom, sisters, aunt, cousins) love you, they will support your marriage regardless of whether or not they actually got to see it take place. Your decision to marry in the Temple will bless you into eternity and the people who love you will realize that in the long run it's your marriage and life together that are important, not the fact that they didn't get to see it. You made absolutely the right decision to begin your marriage in the right place performed by the right authority. (Obviously I'm LDS and I was married in the Manti Utah temple when I was 19). Just continue to build your relationships with those people whom you love and as they get to see how your religion effects your lives in a positive way, they will begin to understand your decision and your faith. Best wishes!
This is for both Amanda and Chris. I watched your episode last week and really wanted to tell you how much I can relate. I converted about two years ago and my husband and I were married last july. It's very frustrating because of the whole temple thing. We chose to do things a little backwards. We had a ring ceremony and were married by our bishop last July, and this July for our anniversary we're having our temple ceremony. I had the same anxiety you did, about it not feeling like your wedding because of soo many people wanting to put their "two cents" in. My biggest struggle now is trying to explain to my family why this second ceremony is still significant and important even though we're already married. If you have any suggestions on how/what to say, I would be really greatful. Congratulations!
At first I didnt like Amanda because she wasnt understanding towards Chris' family but she made up for it on the aftershow. I understand the morman religion but I also know mothers and how they feel and ALL want to be a part of their babies wedding regardless of the religion. I just think Amanda could have been alittle more understanding!!
Well I definately got a negative impression about the Mormon faith from the show... I have to agree with Chris' mom and sisters- what kind of religion seperates families like that on such an important day? Your religion doesn't seem like a positive thing when it excludes family members.. seems kind of cultish actually.. But good luck! You're seriously gonna need it...
Congrats! I to married very young and will be celebrating 11 years of marriage this June. I am soo grateful to be sealed in the Temple for all time and eternity to my hubby and children! It is sad that some people don't understand that. Chris and Amanda- I am so happy for you both. What a great example you were. I really enjoyed watching the show.
I am glad to hear that things seem to be still working out for you two. You guys looked great after the ceramony. I do have to admit though, I would never leave any part of my family nor his family out of the wedding. Also I would like to know what happened after the show because for what ever reason, I cant get the video to work.
Chris and Amanda, always remember why a temple marriage is important. I can understand how it would feel to Chris's family but what others need to realize is that there are reasons why you can't go into the temple without being LDS. It's not something we do just to make life difficult. Just because they don't understand the reasons doesn't make them (meaning the reasons) less significant.
You guys made a good choice and I wish you the best. My husband and I were married in the DC temple 5 years ago (my family is not LDS) we went through the same things....just be patient and loving, it will all be okay. Stay strong in the church. Good luck in all you do.
It was a crazy show, but i enjoyed it. What did Amanda have to say to Chris mom after the show ended. Are you guys expecting a baby? Good luck with that if so.
I just want to say congratulations on your marriage! I know how important being married in the temple is and how sometimes it's not an easy choice knowing family and friends may not attend the actual ceremony. I admire the strength you have as a couple with your strong desire to marry for all time and eternity.
I've read many comments on here stating how "awful" it was to leave part of the family out. It's not that we leave them out because they are "unworthy", its because only those who have made the same commitments to Heaven Father in the temple can truely understand all that happens within the temple. For this purpose, those who don't make this commitment are not permitted to see the ceremony.
Stay strong and keep close to the gospel and I assure you that the guidence you receive from Heaven Father will both bless your marriage and your family!
To all you kids "talking" to your boyfriends in high school about getting married.I hope you have been together for longer than 2 months. Alot of kids Now a days are talkin about getting Married while still in highschool and havent been together long at all.Love is a VERY powerful thing that should never be thrown around.Congrates to Amanda and Chris this show made me cry.Ive been with my Boyfriend for a long time now and hes the best and I cant wait to share my life with him
Amanda and Chris, congratulations on doing the right thing "for you"! I believe wholeheartedly in standing up for your beliefs. 24 years ago, I was sealed in the Salt Lake Temple and my family could not be there. They did support me and wait in the waiting room for us to come out. I may have given in on a few things, like Amanda did, to make everyone involved happy, but I did get the most important thing--an eternal marriage. I have never regretted my decision, and have grown spiritually over the years. In fact, what goes around does actually come around. I just had a son return from an honorable mission! Who could ask for more than to have righteous and morally pure children? continue to be good examples to your families!
I was 19 when I got married to my high school sweetheart who was the same age. We are now 37 and have 4 children. Having been married young too, and being a wife, mother, and teacher, all I can say is that it involves more sacrifice and compromises than other marriages. I hope that you will both compromise. It was not evident in the show.
First off congrats! Marriage is a big thing. Next I am not Mormon, nor am I Christian but I am a woman and understand the want to be married and for it to be picture perfect.
Chris- you handled it all well most men just sit back and say it is her wedding I am just there for the woman and cake, but you stood your ground and helped your family feel involved.
Amanda- Now that it is all said and done and you have your reactions on film forever. I hope you see that Chris was not trying to be difficult he just wasn't lucky enough to have a family that could attend the wedding.
I believe that both of you still have growing up to do and I am happy you are doing it together.
Love is not about age and neither is marriage. As long as you make it work you can be any age and religion.
Anonymous LDS member,
First and foremost, congratulaion! I just want you to know that I went through the same situation.My husband was born into the church and I was a convert, so Chis I totally understand how you felt and how your family felt. YOUr mom seems like such an amazing woman and I feel that she handled everything so graceully, I admire her so much and i'm very happy that you were able to have a ring ceremony. We had one as well and it turned out beautifully.Always remember to stay true to yourself and your family, it is a difficult sittuation and Amanda obviously doesnt understand it so try to help her understand where your coming from. she needs to treat your family with kindness and respct, because that is one of the many things our church teaches us.I know you will do very well as a member and a husband. Try very hard to stay away from the appearance of evil, this show maynot have been the best way to showcase your wonderful day.One more question, Why did'nt you go on a mission? You would have done so wonderful! Good luck with your futue.
Amanda, I am not sure if you cant post back to this or not. I would like to hear from you though because I am confused. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 years. He is morman but hasn't been to church since we started dating. We have been talking about getting married. We both want to start going to church as well. We want to go to his old church. We both watched your show and thought it was great that you had both ceremonies and actually inspired us to have both as well. but he said that it is complicated to be able to get married in the temple especially for me since i have never been to his church? He does not like explaining all of the stuff to me because he feels that I will think it is stupid or I wont understand. How did chris deal with all of this at first? I need some advice.
Amanda and Chris- My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. He is morman, but hasn't been to church since we got together. I never really went to church or anything. He has told me a lot about the morman religion and I find it interesting. We have been talking about getting married. We both want to start going to church. We seen your show last night and it inspired us. We know that we could start going to church and have both cermonies just as you did. My boyfriend says that he doesnt know if he wants to or not becuase it would be complicated for me to get married in the temple. He doesn't really like explaining all of this stuff to me becuase he feels that I will think it is stupid or I wont understand. I was wondering why would it be complicated? How did Chris feel when he converted? Did you guys have any problems with anything? I know my family will probably feel the same as Chris's if we decide to do this, any advice? I hope that you can reply and answer my questions. Your wedding was beautiful! You are so cute together. I wish you the best of luck. Hopefully you can answer my questions. Thanks.
AHHH...YOU GUYS HAD SUCH A CUTE WEDDING AND FOR YOU TO DO THE RING CEREMONY WAS VERY NICE OF YOU. YOU INVOLVED HIS MOM IN IT AND AS A DAUGHER N LAW THAT IS VERY KIND!!! HOPE YOU GUYS LIVE IN HAPPINESS FOREVER!!
KR
what the hell did you give your mother in-law?!?!?!?!?! at the end of the show???
Amanda and Chris,
Congrats on getting married. I am also a member of the LDS church and was proud of you both on how you handled the situation. My husband and I are working on going to the temple soon. Good Luck to you both!
AManda and Chris, i commen dyou for your efforts. I believe that you two have made an enormous step in life that will have a great impact on everyones life around you. I would like to comment on a previous comment, stating that if in fact it is true love, why not wait? Well my question to that commenter, why wait? If in fact it is true love, why wait, if you say you will love each other no matter what, why does finances, education, family, friends etc, even matter? I am not LDs, and while I'll probably not get married at 19, I definitely commend you guys. Congrats and good luck
What an amazing world we live in that we can all have our own agency! Almost every person that commented has taken a different road leading them to where they are. All of those who commented ensure me that there is still compassion in the world. In different ways, you are all trying to help Chris and Amanda. Amanda-how wonderful you are for wanting a family to last for eternity! Chris-what a great sacrifice to make to practice what you believe! You both are great people, and you can make it! My advice to everyone, including Chris and Amanda, is to keep an open mind and stay true to what you believe. It is a good day to be alive! ~Brittany
Amanda and Chris
This is your cousin Candie
Hey I just wanted you guys to know how impressed I am at how you handled yourselves on TV. I thought everything you went through was tough and I understood how hard it must of been to make everyone happy. Remember that going through the Temple is something you did for you and Chris and the family you will have eventually and remember what it means. it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or feels, you know what is right.
I also wanted to tell you how great getting married young is. Even though there will be some who think that you will fail in the first two years. I heard this comment many times after I married Josh but look at how well things have worked out for me. After 11 years of marriage and Almost 5 kids we could not be happier. I hope that things will work out just as great for you and just remember that young marriage runs in out family and for the most part everyone is very happy Just look at Grandma and Grandpa!!
Best of luck and hope to see you soon!!
You people are idiots. You can't go around trying to please everyone; if you do, you'll spend your whole life trying. Ya it's his mother and it's sad she couldn't see the wedding in the temple but she got to see the ring ceremony. If anything his mom is the one being selfish by making such a scene about the whole thing. If thats what her son believes then she should support him and stop her whining. If she doesn't believe in his religion then why would she want to see the ceremony in the temple?
To Kay...it really is not complicated for you to get married in the temple with your boyfriend. Just start going to church and everything will fall into place. Talk to some of the leaders there and they will be able to tell you everything you need to do to get ready and they'll be so excited to help you out.
i just wondered why you could not have the temple marriage and then have a wedding in the church
Amanda and Chris congragualtions on your marrige i absolutley lovee the show engaged and underage i am 20years old and i have a boyfriend who is 18 going to be 19 in just a few weeks we have been together for 7 years now and im readyy to be married to him because i know he is the one for me and soo many people agree but he feels he is too young too be married he says by the time im 21 i will be engaged butt who knows i just know that true love like you two have and the bond you guys share you will always bee together i mean you both made a decsion to get married in your temple and chris mother and family could not attend that is rough for the family but you all made it through that part even tho it was tough on chris mom as she cried going to the temple i just knoww that sincee you all as a family had to face that decsion you will make it and i know when the time is riight me and my boyfriend will be married soon enough well i just want you both too know i wish the both of you the best of luck with your marrigee and planning of a family
i just saw your show and have to say well done! my husband and i are converts of 6 years, and when we were sealed 5 years ago, neither of our families were there, but had been at our wedding 8 years earlier. we were so fortunate to have members of our ward at our sealing, and it was so much more special to us than our wedding had been. non-members often do not understand the sealing is not secret, it's sacred, and only worthy members can attend. i wish you all the luck and blessings you deserve. and to those who say why not wait (however many) years till you get married, i say, if you waited and got married that many years later, why not have been married the whole time? your faith will see you through many things, good and bad, and the strength of your faith is obvious by your desire to have a temple ceremony. best wishes to you both!
Chris, I am glad that you found your place with God. It is unfair for you to not allow your mother to see you get married. I am pretty sure that Honoring your mother is pretty far up the list of morals in your church. I am so sorry that she had to miss her son's marriage. You should be proud that she handled it so well.
just want you to know i wish you both the best. as a mormon i know the importance of a temple wedding. iam sorry his family don't understand our beliefs and maybe someday they will. I wish you both eternal bliss. A temple wedding is special and it has its meaning and purpose. Maybe someday chris family will investigate the church and take the discussions. and will appreciate the meaning of a temple marriage and of our beliefs
congrads the photos are very cute!
Chris and Amanda, Congratualations and have a great life. My husband and I are long time LDS church members and though we weren't married in the temple I know how sacred it is. We are going to be married in the temple as well in December of this year. Thank you for putting the church in the good light that you did and thank you for having that ring ceremony which included Chris's family. We had a ring ceremony which made it that more memorable. Again, good luck to you and may Heavenly Father be watching over both of you.
WHat did you give to your mother in law? At the end of the show...
I do believe that Amanda was pretty selfish about the ring thing, but when I thought about it I realized I know nothing about Mormon traditions. Maybe that was a huge kink in the traditional plans, but she went through with it and she seems happy for doing so. Chris' mom did an excellent job of holding it together even though it was so hard for her to not be totally included. My mom would have been a psycho, so Amanda be grateful! She obviously loves you too. You're young, but young doesn't matter. I wish you both the best of luck. You'll need it, but so does everyone else getting married 'these days!'
i think that was nice
that you let his sisters play a part on their brothers big day.
Amanda,I unlike everyone else would never say that you two were too young to get married being that I married my husband when I was 17, but I will tell you that marriage is all about compromise and you not being able to change wedding plans for his family to fit in shows that you were very selfish. sometimes especially when you have kids you dont always get to do what you want or live your dreams remember that there is two not one,dreams change. people in love make changes to there life for each other.good luck in the future.
I just wanted to let you guys know I know how it feels to have everybody around you saying your to young to be married. I got married at 19 my husband was 24 we'd only been together 11 months. I'm proud to say that this august marks our 5th wedding anniversary. It was hard but that's what makes you a stronger couple if you can stay together through all the hard times. So I wish you guys the best!!!!!
Amanda and Chris, first off congratulations. I saw your episode last night and can say I'm pleased withthe way you did it. I myself am a Mormon and know how hard it was when I got married in the Temple because I had family who was members who still couldn't go in. I hope that you stay strong. I got divorced 18 months after my temple marriage but I don't regret getting married there. Please stay strong and keep the faith and things will be great.
What did u give your mother in law???
First off, Congrats! Its an exciting time in your life, but I do agree with many of the people that say you will need alot of luck in getting married so young. I was 22 when I got married and it took alot of sacrifice and compromise. 2 years later, we are still married but it still a struggle just like any other marriage. I am still in school finishing my degree so that makes things harder too. School is very important so dont give up on it, get some money saved up and go back! These days you cant go anywhere with a degree (heaven forbid something happened to one of you, you could be poor!)
another thing is that all you seem to focus on in the aftershow thing is sex, sex, sex... honey.... it not all about teh sex. thats great and all... thats there is more to a marriage than that...
congrats and good luck... marriage is a wonderful thing. enjoy!
You guys are absolutely adorable together. I just watched the show. It was so sweet I almost cried.. Congratulations though. I hope you guys will have an amazing relationship for the rest of your lives. Take Care.
amanda and chris
I am 33yrs old and yes my little secret is that I do watch mtv. It drives my husband crazy! We will be married 10 wonderful years in sept. I did watch your show and I know that you came off looking a little selfish but I remember the week before my wedding and certainly understand what you were going through and how hard it is to make everyone happy. We got married just out of college and were told to wait until we are stable, well I am now a stay at home mom with two amazing kids 5yr old son, and 2yr old daughter, my husband is a computer guru and does very well, I have a great house, two cars and can give my kids everything they need and want. You two seem very loving and unselfish and thats the key to a happy marriage and family, work hard and you'll do great good luck
Congrads I watch ur show u guys r so young its so cute and I wish u both the best of lluck and hope that ur familys remain by ur side u both have really nice parents, I can't wait until me and my fiance get married we have a really strong relationship so I know it will work 1st we are trying to get are own place because we live with his mom for right now
Amanda, I am very impressed on how you handled chris's family not being lds and all of there questions, you were very good at explaining why they could not see there son get married in the temple. The ring ceremony was absolutly beautiful and I'm sure chris's family especially his mom appreciated it greatly, you seem like a very giving woman and you will be a great addition to chris's family and a great wife to chris.
Amanda,
I understand how it feels to have people telling you that you are too young to get married. The truth is if you are ready then that's all there is to it. It doesn't matter what other people say.
My 19th birthday is in a few days and I have been married for 6 months and we are expecting to have our first baby in a few weeks! I have never been happier!
Good luck to you and your husband and may you have a blessed marriage
Wow, i was reading some of these comments...How judgemental strangers can be sometimes. please, do not take their words of anger and judgement to heart. it was obvious in the show you really put your hearts out. everyone gets stressed about making a marriage and wedding work and run smoothly, the only difference is you bared your soul to network television, something that nto everyone does. you guys are brave, and i admire you both for standing up for what you believe in. though we share different religions, i deal with very similar setbacks in my relationship with my boyfriends family. I am so happy you guys were so determined to make it work and didnt give up...your strength will pull you through every time. :)
you guys looked sooo beautiful!!!!
Congratulations on your big day!
I, like many other girls in high school, dream about getting married after I graduate! But, unlike the girls that have been with their boyfriends for a couple of months, I have been with by boyfriend for almost 5 years now!
With that said, I have still decided to go to college, start my own business, and then get married when I'm about 21! I know he will still be there, So why rush it?
I have to take Amanda's side on this one because if it were my wedding I would want it to be my way!
Good Luck to you both!
I respect the fact that you two decided to have your ceremony in the temple. I am not LDS but I think it is nice to see young people with such strong beliefs and upholding them despite everything. However I was apalled at the way you acted on the show about the ring ceremony. It's not like having a ring ceremony too made the sealing any less sacred right? It was only for his family which is your family too and you seemed like you didn't want to do it at all and even threw a fit about it. I'm just wondering why you were so opposed to it? It seemed kind of childish to me. I am getting married this May so I understand the stress you went through with the planning and two families coming together. I just think you could have handled that better. At any rate, you are a beautiful couple, I wish you all the best, and I will pray for you both.
Hey guys Congratulations on the wedding and just remember god loves you no matter what you believe and as long as you communicate with eachother you will last forever.
amanda and chris your story was so tuching and beautifull after reading your blogs i now understand how you both felt and since i helped my mom with her wedding to my step father over a decade ago i know all about the stress my aunt made a 12layer wedding cake in our kitchen. about half of his family refused to come to the cerromny since it was in the church. (their devot cathlic)
everyone who might read this back off a bit. they may not be doing what you see as right but they ARE NOT YOU! amanda and chris i wish you all the happiness in the world that your trials never be too hard that you will continue to look to each other in good and bad striving to reach the cellestreal kingdom. you are part of the royal generation and if you set your minds to it thier is nothing you cant do!
Hey guys....
Congrats. Don't let people get you down with your age. My husband and I meet when we were 12 years old in Junior High and we married when I was 19 and he was 20. We will celebrate our 16th anniversary this year!
Again Congrats to you and may you have many, many happy wonderful years together!
So I was reading the other comments and I noticed that ALOT of people are putting Amanda down for the way she treated Chris's mom. Ok, here's what I have to say to you Amanda, I completely understand how you felt and I understand that you were super stressed. I got married at 18, and it was so super stressful trying to plan a wedding a month after I graduated highschool. You do get stressed. It's hard for me to understand the who Mormon aspect of your wedding, because I'm not mormon, but I had a lot of the same challenges in my wedding. My mother in law tried to change things and I completely blew up on her. Watching you show reminded me alot of what happened when I got married. My mother in law actually tried to get me to change the date of my wedding. She went as far as to call my pastor and try to change it without even telling me. UGH! anyway.. congrats on the wedding. I'm super happy for you!
Amanda Question
what did u give chris's mom at the end of the show??
I just saw the episode on your marriage. The only advice that I have for you, is be financialy set and responsible before you bring children into the marriage. I was a young bride also, 23, and we had our first child at 24 and the second arrived by gods hand at 25. My husband and i have struggled through 14 years of marriage. We are still happily married, but it has been a long road and a tough journey. Remember family is the most important thing to a happy life, keep them close and respect their guidance. They have been there and they know the secrets. Cherish the moments and the time, and always keep the spark alive. Good luck to both of you and I wish you well in the future.
You guys are very very brave to do what you did(standing up for what you beleive in)i hope you and chris have a blessed marriage and remember, once you get married or engaged you CHOOSE your life to be one and no one has the right to tell you how to live or be married .You handled it with grace amanda and it was a beautiful ceramony.i wish you both the best and many many happy years.
Congrats guys!! I was stoked to see that on the show they were going to have a mormon couple. I too am Mormon, as well as from the SLC area. Kinda close to you I thik.. haha!! But I thikn that it was great that you two did the show, and I know that young couples who get married young can last!! Good luck to you in the future! :)
Some of those comments were pretty low and immature. I'm 19 and getting married in a few months. Unlike most couples these I cannot live together with my fiance'. I have been with him almost 3 years so I'm quite ready to marry him. Age is just an age, when you're ready, why wait when you know you've found someone you want to spend the rest of your life with? It was nice that you had the ring ceremony because you couldn't let his family into the temple. I thought that was very respectful of you and your fiance'. I find it nice to see many younger brides and there are a ton more too. Good luck with your marriage, I wish you two the very best.
I won't say Amanda is too young to get married...just too immature. Seem that she thinks it's all about her and she could give two rips whether anyone else was happy. The wedding is a 50/50 thing just like marriage. Grow up Amanda. Sorry to tell you but I will bet your marriage fails due to you being 19 going on 8.
Hi Chris and Amanda I loved your episode it was so sweet, you two look happily in love!!! Just wondering what was the name of the hotel you stayed in on your honeymoon in Park City???
Wow thats really neat that you are mormon too ^_^. that makes me so happy. A lot of people don't know much about our religion and its really great that you were on this show. I was really excited to watch it. You two are soo cute! You set a good example for younger girls to stick to what they believe in and to keep their standards.
I bet the temple was so pretty. My elder brother got married about a year ago at the age of 23 to his wife who was 21 and they are still going strong so I am sure that things will go well for the two of you. I know that when I get married it will be really special.
Ok so I know Chris and Amanda and they are the cutest people ever and ill i have to say is don't believe everything you see on tv by the way you never see Amanda with Chris's mom hanging out on the show and i have seen them together and they are like friends they are always talking and wispering getting in trouble fun girls together! They are one of a kind! CONGRADULATIONS AND I LOVE YOU GUYS!
Hi Chris and Amanda,
My husband and I have been married for 25 years. I'm an Asian and a Buddhist and my husband is an American and sort of a Christian. We got married at overseas because my husband was in a military. We had a non religious wedding and were happy about it. His mother didn't come to our wedding because she couldn't afforded. I didn't receive a warm welcome from my in-laws 25 years ago. My mother in-law didn't give us a card or wedding gift. His grandmother got very upset and disowned my husband because I am not an American and we didn't get married at the church. I was very disappointed and discouraged. Later, I realized that my in-laws are very dysfunctional family and they can't respect me and deal with the differences. We learned hard way but we can't make everyone happy. Be strong and hope you guys can make it. Good luck.
Omg Amanda!!! Its your 2nd cousin Nichi!!! I found you on here!!! I can't believe it, I so wanted to go to your wedding back last Jan. but I didn't have money for a plane ticket, im so happy for you, you two are so cute, please respond back!!!!!!!! e-mail me, I still have the same address, lovin80smusic@aol.com and I will give you my phone number, I want to talk to you, again, omg I can't believe I found you!!!!!
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