Wednesday, February 28, 2007

My Beautiful Bride

Chris - What a lot of you don't understand is that Amanda changed her wedding day to have a ring ceremony in a reception center, not a church. She dated me when most people told her she was a stupid girl for dating me, telling her I would never be able to give her that temple ceremony. She never left me, but was always there for me even when my parents got a divorce. That was not easy for me but I always had Amanda to turn to. And I would like to think that my sisters could do the same. Sure, she made me mad and frustrated when she said those things, but she was just that frustrated. And I am proud of how everything turned out. She wanted to have a ring ceremony. She was the one with that idea and she wanted it more than 5 min. She found someone to conduct it that was not lds for my mom while still making it special to us.
She never once complained when my mother told us we were stupid and making the wrong decision of getting married in the temple. Amanda is a great woman that lots of you could only come close to. So please, you don't understand all the things she had to go through marrying me. When she could have just married someone who was already a member and not had these problems. Amanda is a saint and besides, her moment of weakness made everyone who was involved welcome and cared about there feelings. Amanda might have even felt more sorry that my mother couldn't go in and truly cared about my mother's feelings. Amanda is a wonderful wife and will be a wonderful mother (but not for years). I love her and we will not only be together until we die but even after and hopefully with our children. Write Back!

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At February 28, 2007 at 7:48 AM , Anonymous bishopsgyal said...

Hi Amanda. People are ALWAYS going to have something to say, whether good or bad. Ultimately, the life you live is between you and God. Live your best life possible and be damned with what anyone else has to say. There are people who marry later in life and still can't make a go of it. You and Chris appear to be very in love and you CAN make a successful & happy life together. Whether I think you're young or not, I think that you guys now are married and will make it if you both feed into the success of your marriage. I wish you all the best!

 
At February 28, 2007 at 8:26 AM , Blogger Jess said...

Hey guys,
My husband and I got married when we were 21 and everyone thought we were making a mistake too. We have now been married 11 years and have two beautiful children. You CAN make it if you're willing to work at it. I wish you both the best of luck~

 
At February 28, 2007 at 11:08 AM , Blogger BrittanyB said...

Hey!!
I absolutely loved your episode. I don't think you two were too young to get married. My sister and her husband got married right out of High School, and it's one of the best marriages I've ever seen. I was quite happy to see a cute, young Latter-Day Saint couple get married. I, myself am a Latter-Day Saint and so I thought it was wonderful!! Congratulations!!!!

 
At February 28, 2007 at 11:10 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Awww! I was sooo excited to see you on this show! I ran over to my best friends house in my bathrobe just to see it. My husband and I met when we were 16, he was Catholic, I was Mormon... thats how it all started. He was baptized two years ago and then we got married this last June when we were 20. We got a lot of grief for wanting to get married young. We were married in Nauvoo and later had a ring ceremony at our reception just like you guys did. That was soo hard- but it was really interesting to see your family react the same ways ours did. Your mother is so strong... I can't imagine what it'd be like for our families to not be able to be a part of something so special. Thanks for doing the show... Congrats!

 
At February 28, 2007 at 11:21 AM , Blogger Myndi said...

I just saw your show on reruns. I think you will make it fine and I think nothing bad of Amanda for breaking down. I did the same thing at my wedding last year. And it was over something as silly as his mother telling people before I had the chance to. I am curious however, I can't find what Amanda gave your mom! I want to know! Keep the love and congratulations!

 
At February 28, 2007 at 11:23 AM , Anonymous gypsy said...

My husband and I got married when we were 21. I was 5 months pregnant at the time. Many people doubted that it would last. It has been 16 wonderful, difficult, fun, tough, amazing years. Just remember that it won't always be moonlight and roses, and you have to keep loving each other thru the tough times. I wish you the best always.

 
At February 28, 2007 at 11:25 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just saw the episode and wanted to say Congrats! You both looked great! I married my husband when I was 18 (he was 19)...6 years and 9 months ago! We've been together almost 9 years. My husband has been in the military for 8 of those, traveling in and out of the country up to 6 months at a time. It's hard to be away from him during that time but in great relationships comes great love, devotion, communication, respect & honesty...that's what bonded us together all these year...Apart or together. I have faith in you guys. Young love is real and can last forever. All my best!

 
At February 28, 2007 at 11:37 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I got married when I was just barely 20 yrs old and have been married for over 25 yrs now. My husband and I do both have college degrees and I think that was very wise and helpful. We had our three children while we were quite young also.
Remember, your wedding day is just one day in your marriage. Honestly, I can barely recall our wedding!!
If you work hard at it, you will do fine. With all your family support and your faith, I'm sure you will be just fine. Amanda and Chris, best wishes to you!

 
At February 28, 2007 at 11:46 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey. I just watched the episode on T.V. Congratulations to you both. I'm glad that you were able to compromise with the family. My husband and I were married at 18. We have been married for 8 years now!! We now have three children. Keep your faith especially through hard times. When we were married, my husband was not a member of the church. He did convert four years later, but we still have not been sealed. I'm envious of your temple marriage. I believe in being married for eternity and not just till death do us part...I know it is hard for others to comprehend. The temple is the House of the Lord and no unclean thing can dwell within it. It doesn't mean that we are better than everyone else, just that the temple is so sacred. There are not many places like that left. Tell your spouse every day that you love him/her, and don't ever leave each other without a kiss. Love can be forever!

 
At February 28, 2007 at 12:32 PM , Blogger Gwen said...

Wow, I finally have an idea how getting married in the temple is. I just joined the church almost, march 18 was my baptism and the 19th i got my confirmation! It was soo awesome, so I can just imagine getting sealed in the temple will be awesome. I loved seeing you two soo happy infront of the Salt Lake Temple. Good luck with everything and endure to the end!

 
At February 28, 2007 at 12:57 PM , Blogger a-holloway said...

Hey yall,

My husband and I just got married in December, we've been best friends since I was 8 and he was 9. Many people also thought that we were too young to get married. But we both new it was meant to be and I thank God everyday for him being in my life.

 
At February 28, 2007 at 1:47 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think that it is wonderful that you gave your wife the wedding that she wanted. I can tell how very much you love one another. Good luck and many happy years together!

 
At February 28, 2007 at 2:18 PM , Anonymous Melissa said...

Congrats Chris and Amanda! It was nice to see familiar faces on MTV (I went to the same HS as you did) It's hard to get married so young. I was engaged at 19 (my Husband was 22) lots of people doubted our lasting capability, but we'll be celebrating our third anniversary this year. Young seems to equal foolish to so many people, but I've never been happier than I am with my husband now. :) It was nice to see my old teacher (yours too!) was presiding over your ring ceremony. He's a great man, and I enjoyed speaking with him on several occasions. (I took his classes three times, and TA'ed for him too) I also know the other swim coach, as he lived in my ward! :) I wish you all the happiness in the world for your new life together!!

 
At February 28, 2007 at 3:28 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I jut wanted to say that your story is so inspiring. I watched the after show when you talked about waiting until you were married to live together/have sex. I am 16 and feel very strongly about this and want to wait until I am married to give the full gift of myself. Seeing two beautiful people wait until they were married is very inspiring. I am a strong Catholic and believe that a true marriage is one performed in the Catholic Church (much like you do with the Mormon Temple) I dream about getting married in the Church and I am glad to see you stick to your ways, because in the end its about you and God, not about your mother-in-law and you. I wish you two a LONG and BEAUTIFUL marriage, and keep on LOVING.

 
At February 28, 2007 at 9:40 PM , Anonymous Rachelle said...

Hey, I wanted to say congrats to you both. Me and my husband were both married in the temple. He was 21 just back from a mission and i was just 18. We have been married for almost 7 years now. Its an amazing feeling, knowing that you you will be married for all eternity. Try to go back to the temple as often as you can it will make your marriage stronger, and the love you feel for each other and your heavenly father will grow. Good luck.

 
At February 28, 2007 at 9:43 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Amanda. I am like a big fan of this show and I just found your episode to be the cutest!!! You guys look really happy and you two appear to be genuinely in love. I'm happy for both of you and I wish you the best of luck in your marriage life...

 
At February 28, 2007 at 9:47 PM , Blogger MelissainTN said...

Hi guys .. I wanted to tell you that yes, you can make it. My husband and I got married when I was 16 and he was 17. Of course, we were pregnant and decided to get married because really, the only thing on my mind back then was going to a 4 year college. All of that changed when I found out I was pregnant. This year we will be married 18 years and everyone said we would not make it past a year, let alone five, 10, 15, or now almost 18, but it can be done. Be very cautious though, marriage is difficult .. it's not all a bowl of ice cream with a cherry on top. It's one of the hardest, most rewarding things you will do in your life. One thing I do recommend is that you never go to bed without saying you love each other and a kiss - no matter how angry you are at one another because at the bottom of everything, your hearts are still connected through love. Always be open and honest and do not lose yourselves within the relationship because it is important to remember you are individuals - respect that and your marriage will be that much stronger.

Good luck with life .. it will throw you a lot of curves, but remember you can take them together.

Have a blast with your children, but enjoy "couple" time before you have them. We have wonderful children and get this - our oldest daughter is now a senior in high school!! Times flies ... enjoy every moment of every day.

Best Regards,

Melissa

 
At February 28, 2007 at 10:00 PM , Anonymous Laura said...

As a convert to the church myself, I had very anxious feelings hwen I saw this episode. I was channel flipping and then *boom* the temple on MTV? what's up with that? Anyways, very insightful. I've already had the discussion with my mom about my wanting to get married in the temple someday, and I'm glad to know that the ring ceremony worked out for you. I have heard my mom and my extended family voice the very same concerns that your family did, and I started crying about it. You have so much strength to be able to put what will ultimately be the most important decision you have made before the possibility (in very extreme cases) of being disowned. I hope that, when I get to that point in my life, I will be able to have the same strength that you do and go through with my temple ceremony no matter what. Thank you for the boost of confidence that I no doubt have needed for a while.

-Laura

 
At February 28, 2007 at 11:20 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was so happy to see you and Amanda on this show! I'm sorry your family members were frustrated about not being able to go in the temple. My parents ARE members and they can't be with me when I'm married in the temple so I can only imagine I'll have a similar experience someday. Best wishes! Thanks for giving the MTV world an idea of a temple marriage!

 
At March 1, 2007 at 1:26 AM , Anonymous GINA said...

well as a young bride and mom i just want to congratulate both of you on your wedding! I do how ever have one concern towards amanda I feel she was very unfair and inconsiderite towards your mom! I seen such a good mother in law and she was acting like such a spoiled brat!Why couldn't she change her religion?? I think she should appologize for her actions because she has to understand how sad your mom was to have missed her only sons wedding! so thats my opionion you can take it or leave it!

 
At March 1, 2007 at 5:49 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

First off, i want to say congrads on your wedding!! I almost cried watching it on tv. You two looked very happy. Im almost eighteen and my birthday is coming up in two weeks. I have a best guy friend, whos also name is chris, who loves me to death. We communicate on every level we've known each other for 6 years ever since we were pre teens.We're so deeply in love and we want to get married. We partically grew up in the same church. and we want to get married at the church we go to. but theres one problem...my mom. Both our parents love the fact that we can talk to each other. But its to the point with my mom im afraid to even mention marriage right now to her. She loves him and all...but with her being single, i think it will take a toll. whats the best advice you can give me?

 
At March 1, 2007 at 5:59 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congrads!!!! I almost cried looking at you're wedding. Im almost eigtheen in lees then two weeks of this month. I have a wonderful best friend/ soon to be fiance, chris aka alex. we've known each other for six years and partically grew up in the same church. We're both deeply in love and his parents are cool with the idea of him marring me. But theres one probelm my mom. I love her to death and she loves me and him to death too. But with her being a single mother and all, i think she might put our whole marriage into a negative drive. My fiance is in the navy and hes in the seas now for 6 months. He knows i love him dearly, and he tells me not to worry as much because it'll work out just fine. But me knowing her i think she'll just blow everything up. whats the best advice you can give on this issue?

 
At March 1, 2007 at 7:47 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Amanda,
I just watched the show and was so excited to see a young Mormon couple wanting to get married in the Temple. I am a member of the Church I was baptized July 16th and in a couple of months I will be taking out my endowments. The blessing that come from the Temple are amazing. Because I am the only member in my family other than my children it is hard to tell them the importance of the Temple. I pray that one day my husband will become a member and we can be sealed. I wish you the best. By the way the picture of you two kissing in front of the Temple is to cute!

 
At March 1, 2007 at 2:52 PM , Blogger AdrienneVegas said...

Hey Guys.My parents were married 17 years ago.My mom had just turned 18 and my dad was 23.She had just had a baby 4 days prior to her wedding.Everyone told my parents that they wouldnt last and that it was better for me(being the baby) if they didnt get married and just stay friends.My parents never listened to what people said and they will be married 17 years on 3/24 my parents love each other more than they did when they met.My parents were worst enemies when they met and now they couldnt imagine being with anyone else.My mom graduated high school,had a baby and got married all in the same week.

You will come to many crossroads in your marriage and your lives.Just make sure you are always there for each other and you will make it through for eternity.

I was always embarassed to say that my mom was a teen mom but she is my best friend and I dont know what I would do without her.My parents are the only parents that are still married out of all of my friends and for that I am greatful.

Congratulations! Hope you have a long and happy marriage and that you will be together for eternity.

 
At March 1, 2007 at 9:02 PM , Anonymous Terra said...

I am also getting married. I am only 18 years old but will be 19 before the ceremony. Everyone tells me that I am too young but i know that we will make it.

 
At March 2, 2007 at 8:35 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Alright now I am really confused and I need U guyas to clear it up for me. Wut did you get your mother and law? I am confused and I need to no or IDK wut to do! By the way congrats on the marrige thing I hope u go far and wont quit tryin when things go had! I thinku guys will be able to make it!!!! Good luck!!!!!!!!!!

 
At March 3, 2007 at 2:55 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think that the best thing you learned throughout your engagement is compromise. It is extremly important that you understand where Chris's mother is coming from not being LDS. I am not LDS (and also live in Salt Lake) and could not comprehend why I could not go to a family members wedding. It makes a person feel very left out that they can not share in that moment with the family. You tend to feel like an outsider in your own family members life. I think that Chris's mother and sisters felt that way because he has had such a big impact in their lives. And they wanted to share that moment with him. I do however think that it was very considerate to have another ceremony in which everyone could be a part of. I think that you two did very well with all the problems that you were faced with.

p.s. good luck chris. (a old co-worker from the WVC Fitness Center)

 
At March 9, 2007 at 10:42 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey Amanda,

I don't think you came off bratty at all. Weddings are STRESSFUL! Even more so when you are dealing with 2 different faiths and trying to make everyone happy. Your ring ceremony was so beautiful I am considering having one myself. And of course, congrats!!!

 
At March 13, 2007 at 2:44 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

HI Amanda! i think your the prettiest girl on the show. U made a really beautiful bride and i think that ur husband is very lucky. I also bet anything that u two will be together forever!

 
At April 15, 2007 at 11:35 AM , Blogger Christa said...

That was VERY well said, she does seem like a great girl... good luck!

 
At June 22, 2007 at 12:30 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey Amanda I just wanted to say thank you and not for the reasons you would think. My older sister was married the day before you and had her reception at Arbor Manor and we had already sent out the invitations with the date and everything so when we found out you guys wanted that day she was crushed! lol, but you were nice enough to change your day and for that I say thank you thank you soo soo much! She had a great day, and it looks like you did to! Much Love!! And Congrats!

 

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