Friday, March 16, 2007

Ashley and Byron: A New Member of the Family

Hi, this is Ashley! Just writing to say that we are still together and staying strong. Marriage is not easy when you get married young. But we are hanging in there. Life after marriage is good. Both sides of our family are accepting and supporting.(Well they have no choice NOW!). We are both working and going to school. No, Byron is not taking the Spanish class. But I will make sure he does SOON. Everybody looks at us different now that we are married. It is almost like we are the couple to look up to. I don't know why.

All the fighting on the show was not called for…we were just under stress. To all the inter-racial couples: you need to stay strong and not worry about what anybody has to say. They are just hating because they don't have it as well as you do. You have to be able to work and stay strong together because, with one person putting all the effort in the relationship, it will not work. To get any more tips, just write me and I will be more than happy to suggest something.

Peace out,
Mrs. Bourgeois!!!!!!!!!

Oh yeah - We have added a new member to the family. I bet you thought I would never consider it. But Byron wanted to add another member so bad, I had to please my husband. IT'S A BOY!!!!!!!! When you look into his eyes, you can't help but fall in love. His clothes are so tiny and adorable. I can't believe I didn't consider it sooner. His legs are so small and chunky. I am scared to pick him up because he looks so fragile. His hair is so healthy; soft and shiny. I am so excited to be a mother. Finally Byron got his Little Bourgeois!!!!! We named him Prince Bourgeois, and he looks just like his daddy!!! He is the best puppy in the world!!!!

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44 Comments:

At March 16, 2007 at 2:01 PM , Anonymous Christina said...

i think you guys are such a cute couple! best of luck!

 
At March 16, 2007 at 2:33 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Girl, I though ya'll done had a baby!!! lol.. congrats on everything...and the puppy too!!

 
At March 16, 2007 at 2:38 PM , Blogger shameika said...

congratulations on your new arrival to the family. I for one am proud of you two. the dedication shows me i can make it to. I have been married for five years with some of the same issues that you guys had. i am just as youngive been married sine i was 20

 
At March 18, 2007 at 10:07 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

wow when u said u added a new member to the family I thought u meant a baby...haha

 
At March 18, 2007 at 3:57 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

That is so awesome that you have a new member to your family! Congratulations! I'm also mexican and my boyfriend is jamaican so it was cool to see you guys make "the final step". Good luck!

 
At March 18, 2007 at 11:25 PM , Blogger K@r!n said...

Congrats Ashley and Bryon on your wedding and your new puppy! What a great place to start your maternal and paternal love. I did the same thing in the beginning of my marriage. Good luck to the both of you.

And yes, you should ignore any negative comments. Love is what it important.

Karin
Shreveport, LA

 
At March 19, 2007 at 1:56 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Awwww, I was SO hoping for a lil baby, buuuuuuut no its a PUPPY!!! Good luck with life mama <3

 
At March 19, 2007 at 8:06 PM , Anonymous colene said...

congrats on the puppy and its good to hear you guys dont fight like that all the time that was some crazy stuff

 
At March 19, 2007 at 10:31 PM , Blogger Felicia said...

Me and my boyfriend are in an interatial realtionship as well, and even though we do get looks and stares when we go out we dont let it get to us. We love eachother very much, and i feel so thankful because my family totally accepts him and he is one of the family. So i just wanted to say congrats to you guys and i hope that things continue to go well!

 
At March 20, 2007 at 4:02 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am also in an inter-racial relationship and we are getting married this December. Seeing your show and reading your words gives me hope that one day people will stop Hateing. Good luck to you guys!

 
At March 20, 2007 at 10:42 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am also in a interracial relationship. I am white and he is mexican and I love his family and they love me. They had no problem accepting me as well as my family accepting him. Congrats!

 
At March 21, 2007 at 12:49 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

i swear i thought you were talking about a baby, but i knew you would have still been pregnant since the show!

 
At March 21, 2007 at 3:22 PM , Anonymous IRMALINDA said...

GiRL!!!!!!!!!! I JUST BEGAN TO READ THE FIRST LINES AND I YELLED OUT OMGSH ASHLEYS PREGNANT!!!!!!!!!!! TO THE PPL IN DA BOWLING ALLEY AT STATE.. LOL CUZ YAH I JUMPED TO CONCLUSIONS. HEHE. I WAS LIKE OMGSH SHE DIDNT TELL US!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. BUT I LOVED YOUR WEDDING EVEN THOUGH I HAD TO PARTY HARDY W. A CRUTCH AND BROKEN LEG. BUT YOUR SHOW CRACKED ME UP! IT WAS FUN WATCHIN IT W. U GUYS. SO WE STILL HAVE TO GO OUT AND EAT TOGTHER. LOVE YA.. CALL ME ASH.

LOVE IRMALINDA..

P.S. ARLYNE SAYS HI

 
At March 21, 2007 at 4:04 PM , Blogger Martha said...

Hey guys,

I just wanted to say that your episode was the BEST!!!! It was better than all the other little lames ones. I just wanted to say that you guys are a real great and happy couple! I am happy that both of you guys didnt listen to members of you family regarding the race issue. Ashley your sooo funny and awesome...Keep up the great work! Good Luck

 
At March 22, 2007 at 7:52 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello, ashley and Byron, I am 29 and I am happy for you two. You know the saying that getting married to young is overrated. Take it from me. I have been married 11 years July 3rd this year. I was 19 and heard all the things you guys did. It can work and will as long as you two remember that your problems are yours and your opinions are the only ones that matter. I am not saying ignore all advice, but just don't let that control your marriage. I have four children now and my oldest is 10. It was hard being a new wife and expecting and being in the Military. He was in there as well and had to leave the day after we were married. All in all please know that marriage is a blessing, God makes no mistakes. And if their are still people hating just remember that it is something they see in you two that they want, they just don't know how to get it. Love each other because at the end of the day each other is all you really have.

Best wishes and much love, Lashenica Jones AKA Mrs. Jones

 
At March 23, 2007 at 8:47 AM , Anonymous CMAN said...

You go girl! Congrats..I done thought ya'll had a baby!!!!

Peace

 
At March 23, 2007 at 11:12 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

That is so awesome you guys have a new member! So adorable! I'm glad you two are staying strong and stronger than ever! I wish you two the best of luck!

 
At March 23, 2007 at 1:27 PM , Blogger Kristina said...

Wow Ashley you had me going there! LOL Congrats on your new puppy!

I saw the show at least twice, and I can really relate to the situation that you and Byron are in. My fiancee is white, and I am african-american and panamanian. Our families have never met, and both sides are nearly dead set against us marrying so young. I'm 21 and he's 23. His father is dead set against him marrying a black girl and hs opted to not even show up at the wedding, but his mom's side of the family is very nice. We don't have any racial tension with my family.
I really give you two kudos for staying so strong and dealing with that AND everything else. My fiancee and I are getting married August 11, 2007 and thanks to you and Byron we know that we aren't the only interracial couple trying to take on issues like this!

Also, where did you get your dress it was georgeous! I'm still searching for my dress. It's hard to find a beautiful dress for plus size girls that's not out of this world expensive!

Are you on myspace i'd love to chat sometime!

 
At March 23, 2007 at 6:49 PM , Anonymous miranda said...

that is good that you are together and making it i've been with my husband scince i was 18 we have a two year old son and we don't fight everything is good so it well be good as long as you make the effort

 
At March 23, 2007 at 7:20 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey,
My name is Vanity. I am in a inter-racial relationship. Being that I'm African American, and they guy I'm involved with is Arabic, it does get pretty hectic! People like to judge you, and say really bad things. But I know in my heart, what "We" have is real... and no-one can take that away!
GOOD LUCK ASHLEY & BYRON!!!!!!!!

 
At March 24, 2007 at 3:09 PM , Blogger Patricia said...

hey i would like to congradulate you two in everything that you do. and i really love watching you alls episode because i too am in a bi-racial relationship. and we are also engaged. but see i an black, and he is mexican. but the thing is, is that we havent told anyone yet, just our close friends. we are plannning on getting married after i graduate from college, but we are close to having a little one of our own. well thanx for the insparation that i needed, cause truthfully i have never looked up to anyone before, so thanx...

 
At March 24, 2007 at 6:10 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just saw the show about yall and it inspired me to make the most of what I have with my sweetheart. Even though my mother doesn't really approve, and his aunt can't stand me; I think we strong enough as a couple to overcome these differances.... And "CONGRATS ON THE NEW ARRIVAL!!!"

 
At March 24, 2007 at 8:50 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

hay ,why didnt you tell your husbandthat you need a girl baby or you will bevery loneley when you shop. althouth boys are very hot girls are better !!!!! your #1 fan !!!!!!

 
At March 24, 2007 at 8:56 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey you so should buy one of those little careges and put ypor puppy in it and go shoppins and it can be your baby . all me hopr to you and your family !!!

 
At March 24, 2007 at 8:59 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey good luck puppys are always loeded with dumps!!!!!! and let me tell you they stink !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 
At March 25, 2007 at 2:18 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi you guys are soooo cute i think it is great to see two young people in love. Ya'll hang in there and remember with God on your side no one can tear you apart. God bless you and your family.

 
At March 25, 2007 at 2:39 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey ashley,just wanted to say how great the show was,and i hpoe you guys have a happy marriage,and big ups to you for representing our beautiful mexican-american heritage and making it apart of your wedding!

 
At March 25, 2007 at 2:40 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congratulations. I just watched the show and I think you two make a great couple. I am 22 latina and my fiancee is 25 asian. At first, our families didn't like either one of us to be together because the clash of our cultures, but in the end, they realized that love has no boundaries. They also realized that we both are financially secure and that it was the best for both of us. I love him so much that I couldn't care less what anybody has to say that is negative. I'll still love him through thick and thin and so does he.

 
At March 25, 2007 at 2:57 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Do you ever consider what you father-in-law said about you guys relationship?...than if he just put his foot down things will get alot better...you guys are a very beautiful couple but now that your married, have you considered and tried to balance your relationship? My point is that you tend be very bossy and want things your way...maybe consider what he wants and not what your demanding. Relationships are about changing and growing together...not trying to take controld of each other. There should be a balance, I know because I was like you. Now that I got engaged and changed myself, my relationship is much better. I'm Peruvian and my fiance is African-American, and you guys gave alot of inspration to others but you made it clear that you want to take charge of everything....He seems like a great guy...you dont want conflict in your relationship...I just had that opinion and im sorry if I offended you but I just had to say it...you dont want years to pass by and he just get fed up...Remember relationships are about changing and balancing each other out to make things work...

 
At March 25, 2007 at 5:38 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey Ashley and Byron, i was in the same situation as you guys were, except my family accepted my fiance in the family without a problem. it was his family who didnt accept me, well just his parents. my fiance is asian (vietnamese)and i'm african american. we had a baby girl and now his parents are ok with me. at first i had an attitude about them not liking me i was just like if they're not going to accept me then they dont need to accept my baby girl..but it all worked out in the end we all get along very well. i guess they just needed time.well congratulations and good luck.do you have myspace?

 
At March 25, 2007 at 6:05 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

aww! yay its great to hear that you guys are doing great together that gives me confident in my engagement =)

 
At March 26, 2007 at 6:02 PM , Anonymous Brittany C said...

I am getting married soon also i am 19 my fiance is 20 so i know what you mean. Also that is so good i am excited for you and congrats on your new baby, I wish you all the best, God Bless!!!

 
At March 28, 2007 at 10:49 AM , Anonymous Erica Cuevas said...

Hey ashley just got done reading your blog lol you had me going when u talked about adding a member! But ya glad to hear you guys are doing fine. hope to hear from you soon call me!!
<3 You, Erica

 
At March 28, 2007 at 6:32 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's great to hear that things are going so well for you two. I remember Byron's dad on the show being disappointed as if marriage meant you could never achieve a prosperous future. I married my high school sweetheart 9 years ago when I was 19. Life together hasn't been easy but we have been very successful - traveling around the world, graduating from college and graduate school, and having prosperous careers - and I credit that to the fact that we were married. If you find the right person, you can go further together than you would ever go alone. You guys know what I am talking about.

 
At March 30, 2007 at 2:13 PM , Anonymous PATRICIA said...

Ashley, for the record,, i want you both to know that "i am very happy for the two of you and i wish the best for you both. I trully hope the doubts you have of being accepted is just a phase. Welcome to the family
Love, your mother-in-law
Patricia Bourgeois

 
At March 31, 2007 at 5:49 AM , Anonymous Tiara said...

I am happy to see all is well with you guys. Being that you two are at the age that you are it is some very powerful stuff. I am 25 years old and I will be gatting married next June 0f 2008. It took me that long to actually find real true love and not just some come and go thing. You two are a good prime example for a lot of youg people out there. Congrats on the new addition, im happy for you. Be strong and always keep god in your hearts, and always remember that you have each other and that is all it is going to take to make it. God is on your side, always be honest with one another, and always have communication between one another. Be good and stay sweet. God Bless Your Hearts:)

 
At April 1, 2007 at 3:07 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I wish you two the best!!! Keep God in your lives and there will be no stopping you!

Education is important so continue to earn highter educations. finishing school is the best thing for the both of you trust!!! I know what I am talking about. And Ashley your family is the best! You two are very lucky to have the support that you have.


Good luck!!!

 
At April 1, 2007 at 3:10 PM , Blogger N I C O L said...

Congratulations to both of you! My husband and I are old timers. We were married at 20 & 21 years old. EVERYONE said we were too young. We'll celebrate 18 years this October and we've always been really happy. We did wait ten years to have a baby, the best thing we ever did. Keep your eyes on the long haul and leave family and troubles at your door. Do more for the other than they do for you. That's what my dad told me and it really works. Will you post some pictures of the puppy?

 
At April 3, 2007 at 5:51 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congratulations Ashley and Bryon!! My husband and I have been together for 7 years and we just got married. Everyone thought we were to young too and we r only 22 and 24 but we loved eachother and thats all that matters. So I wish u the best of luck and God bless!

 
At April 14, 2007 at 9:01 PM , Anonymous Felicitas said...

Hi, my name is Felicitas and me and my husband got married at 20 and 21 years old. We'll be celebrating two years this July and it couldn't be any better. We are not only a bi-racial couple, but also had to deal with a long distance relationship for about 2 years. I am from Germany and I had to go back to Germany to finish school about 4 months after we met. We constantly went back and forth as much as we could, but it was a big relief when we finally were able to live together. Our relationship was also made more difficult by the fact that my husband brought a son into the relationship (He's 5 years old now.). It was stressful, but now we are one "happy little family" since he lives with us now. You guys keep your head up because people will always have something negative to say. What matters is really your love and what you make of it. You cannot satisfy everyone, therefore do the best to satisfy yourselves. GOOD LUCK!!! (and keep updating)

 
At April 17, 2007 at 8:17 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey i jus wanted to say i thought your show was the best and that i think you two are a great looking couple and i think that getting married yyoung really dosent matter when you love each other as much as you two do.And i just want to say ashley im soo jelous of you because byron is a good looking dude and seems lyk a great guy so stay strong together because those are pretty reear these days.
best of luck.

 
At April 23, 2007 at 9:22 AM , Anonymous Felecia said...

I Can Understand The Whole Inter Racial Thing Very Well. I Am Hispanic And African American, And I Mean People Can Be So Rude. They Look @ Me As Tho Im An Monster. But I Am Proud Of Who I Am, I Am Involved With A Strong African American Man, And Everyone Respects That I Am Half N Half....Its A Beautiful Thing. I Love Seeing Inter-Racial Couples....I Wish You Guys Luck In The Future...Im Sure Your Children Will Be Beautiful, But For Now That Puppy Probably Is So Cute....

 
At May 20, 2007 at 9:08 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

My husband and I are also interracial. He's asian and I am hispanic. We had a little girl all most a year ago. People can be stupid and it can hurt that people can be so stupid. My little girl is so beautiful and some people can't get past the fact that she's mixed. you have to be strong for eachother when you do have a child because it can be a stress to deal with stupid people

 
At May 24, 2007 at 3:10 PM , Blogger misstaylorbrooke said...

To all the inter-racial couples: you need to stay strong and not worry about what anybody has to say.

i cant tell you how happy i am to hear you say that. im in an interracial couple. my white and he is black. and old people and adults look at us in disgust. not all of them but alot do. and i want people to know that it isnt a big deal. it might have been before but the world has changed. more power to you and byron for doing what you wanted and not listening to what others had to say. i do it all the time.

 

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