Jen and Jake: A Reply to Everyone!
To start out…Well, to start off we got married at St. Thomas More in Brooklyn, OH. It is an amazing church for anyone in the area getting married! They did a wonderful job.
Secondly…
Yes I am going to college as we speak. I am studying to be a pediatric nurse and should graduate next spring. I also work two jobs to keep myself busy from missing my hubby. Jake and I talk about the future all the time. I know what you mean when you say that the military has a lot to offer if he does decide to re-enlist. But honestly, I want him out. He wants a chance to go to college. He also wants to be a firefighter. We want a large family, and I really don't like how military families move around so much. We want to just finish up our time here and go back to our family in Cleveland. It is too hard to be away for so long.
To the Girl Who is Getting Married Before Deployment…
DO IT! Please marry your soldier before he leaves for Iraq or where ever he is going. If you don't, you will regret it if anything happens. Marrying him will remind him everyday there that he has a WIFE.
Concerning a Reality Show…
Haha! That’s so funny you asked about a reality show because we hear it from everyone! Everyone thinks that we should have our own show! We really are not together enough though to even do a show with one another! But thanks! Jake and I are glad to see some people can relate to us in many ways! I especially love it because I thought I was alone! Being a military wife is very lonely and I know this sounds weird... but it is extremely hard to make friends here. Families are coming and going all the time. It is like every time I make a new friend, they get relocated! It sucks! And on top of that, Jake is never here so I feel alone sometimes. You ladies who are with your man all the time... take advantage of it because we military wives don't get that at all.
The Bond We Still Share…
Jake and I have an amazing bond since he joined the Army. It sounds weird but we have such a strong relationship now. It is amazing to me. I think that being limited to the time we have with each other really affected our relationship for the better. We are so close it feels too good to be true sometimes. I just stare at him in amazement and think about what we have. He melts my heart over and over. I love it!
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I am in a long distance relationship, and have been for three years, so I know what you mean about the army making your relationship stronger--you just cherish ever moment you can with the person you rarely see. In the end, it will make your relationship stronger than it would have been otherwise. Good luck, and hopefully you won't deal with the military situation too long.
Thats Good that your going to school. Im a Female, that is going off to basic training in May, Fort Jackson to be exact. and Jake can still go to college in the Army and they pay 100% of it. I think you should reconsider him re enlisting, but thats not my place to speak. any ways i hope what ever decision you guys make will help you guys have a better and stronger future! well good luck with every thing!
I thought that your guys' story was the best one that I've seen so far. Although I am not a military wife I have numerous family members in the service. I feel for you. Hang in there, you guys are so good together.
P.S. Loved your Bahlorette Party!!! I hope mine is that fun!!
so ... not sure how valuable this will be ... but soon enough you wont be the only one from cleveland in hawaii ... myself and my husband "my soldier" will be moving out there in may ... so i guess we can be homesick together ... lol.
Omigosh you guys are so cute together. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you are too young or whatever because trust me just because you get married young doesn't mean it's doomed from the start. Keep up the love and be behind him no matter what happens.
~Amber D.~
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 yrs and he is about to leave for the navy and its been so hard on me already and he isnt even gone yet. but its still really hard spending all the time with eachother bc i always work and so does he. but i hear from alot of people that its hard. but it just makes u stronger. congrats on the marriage.
You guys fought a lot during the show, but it's nice because that's how you love each other. I figured it was because you may have been upset about him leaving and you just needed to take your anger out.
You two are such a great couple! When he comes to visit you should have a baby! That way you'll have a little piece of him there with you always. :) Good luck! Always love each other, tell him everyday and every time you get off the phone, even if you're fighting.
I love watching you guys, I thought it was the best one yet! I actually got married to my hubby before he deployed to Iraq last year. Its a hard thing dealing with someone being away, but its the best feeling int he world and know that their are other wives out there for support.
just wanted to say, I got married at 21 to a guy in the Army, we had so many doubting us but we are going on 10 yrs this year and I wouldn't change a thing. Great story and I wish you all the best.
Hey Jen you are so beautiful. Out of all the engaged and underaged shows the one with you and Jake is my favorite. He seems like a great guy I hope everything works out for you both.. And I hope he can finally come home for good soon. If you have a myspace maybe we can chat sometime. I'm also planning on getting married within the next few months. I would love some advice every now and then.. take care.
It's so funmy my fiance's name is Jake I am 18 years old and he is 24 everyone says I am to young to get married but i have been with him for 3 years and i love him so much and he loves me....The only thing i don't like is the lonely days and nights when he is at work and he works 2 jobs because we were barely making it and you inspired me to realise I can do it and be ok.. You going to school and everything it makes me realise I can still get married and reach my goals I also want to be a pediatric nurse.. Jen your so cute and thankyou so much for making me realise I can get married and still reach my goals...
Just wanted to say I am glad things are going good for you all! I am a navy wife, and I know it is stressful.. My husband is currently away serving Operation Enduring freedom and I am pregnant and due (he wont be home for it) next month. I hope you never have to go through that!
Hey girl, I can relate to you 100 percent. I'm a Marine Fiancee and it's a tough job! ;) I had a lot of doubts and fears about getting married young just because Brad was on the Marine Corps. But I'm glad we're going to take the step before he deploys (again) in Jan of 08. Deployments are tough but believe me, time does go by quick if you keep yourself busy, and if you can go through that then you feel like your up for anything. Good Luck and take care - Veronica
Watching your story was so awesome to me. My fiance' is in the marines and he is over seas and will be back soon. We are getting married when he comes home and I feel the same way as you do. All your feelings you expressed I totally agree with! You rock girl!
well i just wanna say congrats on guys...and i have been with my boyfirend since high school he is about to gratuate from boot camp....and he will be station in tx. we advice would you give me. we will be getting married sept.15,2007..
So I must say your story inspired me and so did your blogs! Im a proud marine fiancee and I couldnt have asked for a better man! We we're dating throughout his deployment to Iraq, which was extremely rough, but we made it through and came out stronger then ever! Now we are enduring a training deployment to Korea. It sucks because hes stationed in Japan until May, but I know that im going to be married into the military! So congrats on your wonderful marriage and dont ever be sad about him being gone, Us military ladies get to experience the first kiss over and over again!
<3Kaela
Hey Jen I am a military wife as well ane my husband and I have been married for almost 7 months. His name is Jake too, funny. We are stationed at Fort Bragg, in Fayetteville, NC. I just started making friends and they are all military wives and we have such a good time together pus the suppot hey can give you is the best bc they are the ones whol fully understand what we have to go through. I just wanted to say hang in there....
Jen, I too am a military wife and you are so right! if you have a choice to marry your man before deployment they should! its hard over there and having someone to be able to come home to officially is awesome! well i loved your update and original show so good luck with everything and congratulations!
hi i just wanted to say congratulations!! my husband and i got married at 19 after he got out of boot camp. he is an army infantry soldier too!! HOOAH!! its hard being an army wife. we have been married for 2 years in august, and are expecting our first child in september!! (product of R&R :)) he has been deployed for the whole 2nd year of our marriage and i just want you to know that its not so bad. this deployment has only made us closer. i didnt think it was possible, but it really has, its difficult but we do still get to talk frequently and he has been keeping himself safe! i just wanted to let you know that deployments are hard, but it seems to be passing quickly. dont worry! i hope ur man never has to go over! but if he does, ur not alone, try to join the FRG and stay connected! it helps to be informed! :) congrats again!! **Sarah** p.s. how is Hawaii?? if my husband re-enlists i would LOOVE to go there!!
hey Jen, first of all your husband is hot.. lol and your very lucky. Second.. i loved watching your episode because you two reminded me so much of my boyfriend and I. We have been together for 3 and 1/2 years and all we do is fight. Mostly over jealousy issues but thats what we do. Our friends all tell us not to be together and they all hate us together because we fight so much. But when we are alone we love each other more than anything. I love how even though you two fought so much your love is so strong that it keeps you guys together it gives me hope for my boyfriend and I. Thanks for showing me that im not the only one out there who constantly fights with there boyfriend over stupid petty things.
My husband and I have been married for 5 years this year. He joined the military right out of highschool (we are highschool sweethearts). He has been on 5 deployments in his almost 7 year career. If you push all of the months together, he has been gone for half of our marrige. That is what the military does to you and I can definetly sympathize with Jen. Stay strong!
I know how you feel Jenn...My husband is in Iraq as we speak,,It is very hard to be away from him
First off Congrats to you! I am married to a military man. I also did my time. We got married right out of AIT. I had just turned 20 and he was still 19.
My husband is currently in Iraq doing the soldier thing. He left me and his beautiful 4mo. old behind. Being I was also in the Army, still am...just a reservest now though, I understand why they have to be there. it makes me sad, but its just a job they have to do.
I hope that you and your hubby have a long happy life together. Watching your show hit right at home to me. Im far away from my family due to Military orders, so I get where your comming from. Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Always remember that.
Take care and God bless
Jen,
I know how you feel about your husband joing the army again my husband isnt so sure if he wants to go back into the Air Force. I hate him being in the military to but I am telling him to retire with the Air Force cause of the benfits he will get. Its hard to explain but I told him he should but he doesnt know yet. I think ya'll should talk about it cause it may be hard havin him in the military but its good pay and alot more. I understand the moving around alot but just think of the places you will see. I am about to join my husband in Italy. Without the military I would never see Italy. But whatever ya'll decide make sure its the right one.
Jess
Hey Jen,
I know what your going through and I know what you mean when you say that its hard to make friends especially when everyone keeps moving away and it really sucks not having your hubby there with you everyday especially since you two just got married. My hubby is in Japan for the next 2yrs unacompanied and it really sucks. You guys will get through it, its hard right now but in the end it will make you both much stronger. Good Luck!!!
I am also a military wife, Navy, more specifically. My husband is due to either get out or reenlist in July and like your husband, he wants to be a firefighter. He has applied and passed the tests for firefighting and police officer for a nearby city. I am very nervous about reenlisting or getting out. Getting out would ultimately be a pay cut and we would also have to start paying medical expenses. But I also know that if he reenlists, he will do the 20 years because he said there is no way he will do a job for 8 years and then quit. I would love to have him home... we just had a baby on January 29th and I already had a daughter who is now 10 when we married over two years ago so I would love for him to be with the kids more. I am also lucky enough to be able to stay at home with my son rather than work and have to pay childcare expenses. I am worried that I will ultimately have to return to work if the pay cut is that drastic. I never woulda dreamed that at 28 I would have the opportunity to stay home and raise my kids!
Anyways... all that said... good luck with yall's decision to reenlist or get out. Weigh your options. If he hasn't made rank yet, the pay cut may not effect you guys if he gets out.
I am glad you guys are still doing well! It was so hard to watch your show because *cringe* you both fight with each other like every two seconds!!! it was clear you guys love each other, but geez.....
i am glad you are still together!
hey Jen! Im so proud of you for doing what YOU wanted to do and following thru with the marriage, even tho Jake isnt around as you would like him to be. The important thing is, that you both DO have each other to rely on...as husband and wife..which is so beautiful. I was recently dating a guy, Kevin, in the air force..just recently graduated Tech School and is now doing his job in Washington..all the way across the US! And Im from a small town in northwestern ohio, about an hour and a half from Cleveland..so we should get together sometime and just chat about being with someone in the military. If anyone knows how rough it is, its me..and you of course! You and Jake are too cute tho.
Hey Jen as soon as the show started i wished someone made a story like what i will go through in a couple of years or whatever happens. Im a Army Fiancee and my boyfriend is just about to go to basic training but i just have one thing in mind IRAQ..its for sure hes going by Summer 2008 and everyday it gets harder and since i just turned 18 its even worse. I have everything basically planned out for us to get married but the problem is MY family, I'm scared that since he wants us to last forever ill get like disowned since probably to them I'm making a stupid decision..i wish u guys the best everrrrrrrr in the world and dont do him wrong u know hes a great guy!
I loved your guys story the best! I have a sweetheart over in Iraq right now and it is hard on both of us. He will be over there for a year and a half but i get to see him in aug. It hard to be alone over here in the states with out him. To watch all the couples around you and how lucky they are to have that man waking up next to them evryday is so great. I dont have that, and neither do you it seems. I really hope they dont send Jake over there. Keep him close and cherish every moment with him. Even the fights! :)
I really loved your story the best. Best wishes to both of you!
I can relate to both of you. I got married when i was 18 my hubby was 20. What was really hard for us was the 1st couple of months he was out here in San Diego bc he is currently enlisted in the navy. ( we are actually both from ohio also) We are currently expecting a baby and i love the idea of having a baby with him but the hardest part is is that come late oct. (when the baby is expected to arrive) early nov. he will be living for his 9month deplpoyment. which means he may miss the birth and he will be missing the 1st 9months of the babys life. because i know how we feel on this issue wait to have a baby until hes out or able to be there. im planning on moving back to ohio when he leaves. but other then that i love being a wife to some1 the is in the service besides the fact that the military is stupid.
Congrats!! Jen you guys are such a cute couple,do you guys ever talk about having a family? i just want to note that i am in a similar situation where my boyfriend of a year leaves every month to help out in the army, i get so lonley & just wish he would hurry up & come home. i hope when you get a cahnce you can reply.
I am in a relationship with someone in the Navy and who has only been in it for about a year now. Leaving is definitely the hardest, but it makes seeing eachother again the best thing ever! I just thought I would tell you good luck and let you know that you are not alone. I feel the same way you are feeling and I commend you for working as much as possible. Keeping busy is the best thing and will make the time pass faster. Before you know it you will both be moving back home and beginning the rest of your lives together! It must be so exciting to think about! Best of wishes!
Thats good that you finally got married with the person that you love the most. So my question is are you planning to have kids any soon?
First of all I will like to congrat you for getting married so young.You guys' make a great couple. I also got married at a young age and right know i have a 2 year-old girl.marriage it's not as easy as we think it is. but as the years past you get use to it. I hope that your marriage will last long and good luck with everything!!
Congrats :) how exciting. I cant wait untill my boyfriend and I get married. We are highschool sweethearts and have been together forever. He is in the Army... HOOAH! He is a Cav. Scout and is currently deployed to South Korea. He will be there for a year and will be comming home in January 2008! I cant wait untill his R&R 2.5 more months! hopefully I will be able to start planning a wedding after he leaves :) take care and best of luck to you both. I give you so much credit. Being an Army gf, fiance, wife is never and easy thing but it is totally worth it! Glad to hear you are keeping yourself busy!
Hello, when I saw your episode I felt like I am in a situation close to yours. I have been dating my fiance since high school, five years with him now. He enlisted into the Army Reserve after high school and now we found out recently he will be going to either Iraq or Afghanistan soon. It is so hard to know and think about what it will be like or what will happen. We are not getting married until after he comes back but I am kind of feeling different that before would be better. I am so happy for you guys and it feels good to see that someone else is in the same situation as I am and probably feeling the same way.
I just wanted to let you know I know exactly how you feel. I have been a military wife for the past three years and we are currently going through our firts deployment together. Im sure you have heard it before but the first year is the hardest and it only gets better after that. Military life is hard to adjust to but it can be fun if you want it to be. Best of luck to both of you.
Have fun!!!
Hey yeah ik how hard it is to have someone u care about to leave..my dad had to go away to Iraq for a while. Stay Strong.
omg i absolutly feel for you. I am 18 and i have been with my man for 4 years before we got married, and we did it about 2 days before he was shipped to japan and now he will be going to iraq. i haven't seen him for over 4 months and i have about 2 more years to go. my husbands in the marines and its hard because after you get married you expect to live with them but thats not really capable since hes an ocean away. us military girls must stick together. well good luck to you and jake
i just have to say i loved your episode the best...lol. Even though you guys were fighting, it just made me laugh....only because my fiance and i are somewhat like you guys. Im just passing by and wish you guys the best!
Hey! I just wanted to say that I have a boyfriend in the Marines, hes stationed in Japan. It can be hard sometimes, I know, but keep your heads up, because in the end you have eachother. Good Luck to You Both!
Hi Jen~
Im a military wife for the second time even though the firstitme isaid it wouldnt happen agian ut u cant help who u fall in love with!! I got married when i was 16 and was married for 6 yrs!! That was really hard and when he left for hte war it was very hard because it had just started and no one knew what to expect!! hang in there!! I just recently married my hubby now when he came home from iraq only to be home for 2 weeks and then go back it has been extremely hard buti agree that i think in the long run it will get better and our relationship will be stronger bc of it!! Ur military friends do come and go but i have friends that i still keep in contact with so if u can have a small group or even one then i recommend it!! Take care!!
I am an army wife. have been for a year. I know what you mean when you say that you hate being away fro everyone and its hard. i agree but all you can do is make friends. make lots of them. my husband has gone threw one depoly and in july is going threw his second...all i can say hun is have fun with your girlfriends and keep busy. do what makes you happy. i would reconsider him reenlisting. my husband will reenlist when he's over there. its the best thing for him to do while he finishes up college. i know itll be hard but us army wives get stronger with the time we spend apart...good luck i hope all works out!! being an army wife is hard but you can do it!!!
i have to say that yea it is so very hard to be married to a military man. o man...lol...especially when you have a child together and have to do it on your own. well at least until he gets back home. we are contemplating too whether he should reenlist but i told him i couldnt stand it no.i want my husband home!! n he finally will be in 2 wks so yay hez been gone since sept.and this is his 2nd deployment.sheesh i kno.but i loved to see your guys story..girl you had me crying when they started asking you about what your gonna do while hes gone or if something happened to him. we;re stationed here in hawaii 2..hez a marine.but anywho just wanted to say i loved your show n i wish ya'll the best
I grew up an Army brat, joined the army, and then married a soldier. My husband has been in for 12 years. Good luck to you! It's hard what you are doing, but you are on the right track, by keeping yourself busy! If he does decide to get out, at least you will already have your nursing license! Good luck!
P.S- Make sure that your husband has all of his paper work from his enlistment. The Army screwed up my information, regarding my GI bill, and if I hadn't kept everything, I might not have been able to still get those benefits! (Enlistment contract, LES's from the time the money was taken for it, that is the paperwork I am reffering to.)
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I just wanted to say that I get it. My husband is in Iraq (has been for 7 months now) and we still have so long to go before he gets home. We had to push up our wedding date because of the deployment. I understand why you guys want him to get out, thats what my husband is doing. All the benefits in the world cant take the place of having the one you love near you and out of danger. Also we have a baby boy together, he was born shortly before my husband left and its really hard not only doing it all alone, but also its hard to see everything my husband is missing and have to help my husband deal with that. Its definatly not a family friendly lifestyle. There is the old saying that "if the Army wanted you to have a family they would have issued you one" Good for you going to school! Good luck with the deployment. Its a make or break situation, if you can handle the stress of this you can pretty much be assured that you can handle much of what life throws at you from now on. It does make a relationship stronger. It makes you have to communicate even better as you have no other intimacy and that can be good if it carries over into the future. Deployment is also different than long distance. Its usually longer and there is alot of worry that people outside of it never really understand. Its still hard after they get back I hear but here's hoping we can weather that storm too and move into our new life together. Good luck to you both and I'll be thinking of you.
PS Im only 25 myself
Jen, I am 24 years old and have been married to my husband for a little over 2 years. We pretty much have been married the total of years he has been in the military. We are living in Ft. Lewis, Washington. My husband has been in alittle over 2 years. The military life is hard. I started to cry when I saw the part in the episode where you were saying goodbye to Jake so he could head off to work. Then it showed you sitting on the couch flipping through channels and it made me tear up because thats exactly what I do and feel. You just feel so lonely and don't know what to do with yourself half the time. See I have a 3 year old named Elvis and he keeps me pretty busy while my hubbys gone but my toughest challenge is staying strong without bursting into tears when he asks where his daddy is. I have lived here over 2 years and have people come and go as friends. Its a crazy life but we do it for the men we love. When is Jake set to deploy??? I guess the reason I'm writing is because my husband is leaving next week to Iraq. We will be facing our first deployment and it really is hitting me pretty hard. I have to stay strong for my 3 year old and even sometimes that seems impossible but I do it. I walk away and cry if I have to. I face many challenges up ahead this next year and a half but I know this deployment is going to make us stronger as a couple. I just want to let you know that I keep you and Jake in my prayers and my heart really goes out to the both of you...military life is hard. Please keep us updated on Jake and his deployment...my prayers will be with him. Thank him as well for being so courageous!!! Its men like him and my husband that make life worth while :) Take care!
hey jen ~~~*
my hubby is currently in Iraq hes been there since 8/06...he s not due home till 11/07....we just had our little girl in march he hasnt seen her yet ....im a young military wife im only 20 and my hubby is 21...It is very hard dealing with his deployment i miss him so much ...i hope u and jake have a very long happy marriage ...Love anelle
I'm 20 and my husband is 21 and in the Army. He's currently in Iraq. I had a question for you Jen. You guys were together before he joined the Army- did you know he was going to enlist? Or did it come as a surprise?
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