Wednesday, February 28, 2007

Marrying in the Temple

Amanda - To all you girls out there that want to get married in the temple, don't lose that for anything! It is the most important step you could take in your life and don't let anyone take that away! People will say anything to get you not to do it and it may feel like anything that could go wrong will. But that's life and that should just show us that we need to make this very important step even more. It is important to explain to people how important this step means to you and how much you will regret it if you don't do it right. It is so nice to be there in that moment and nothing can make up for it. You will remember some of the things they say but what you will remember the most is being in a place were you can think and be happy and nothing else matters but the marriage of the one person you love and will always love and yourself.
It is so important that I might have been a little worried that a ring ceremony might take away from it. But nothing could ever come close to gettting married in the temple. It's not about who is there 'cause I remember more who wasn't. People that I so wish could be there and have the wonderful blessings that I have for that choice. But sometimes all you can do is just stand up for that one thing you want the most and that you believe in with all your heart and mind. PLEASE DON'T LET ANYONE TAKE AWAY HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO GET MARRIED IN THE TEMPLE! Write back!

37 Comments:

At February 28, 2007 at 2:49 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

You two are truely an inspiration!! You were young, but mature enough to handle yourselves and do what is right. I'm glad you stood up for yourselves and didn't let anyone in the way of your temple marriage. Your 'forever family' will be blessed. Stay strong. Thanks for doing the show and setting a good example.

 
At February 28, 2007 at 6:06 PM , Anonymous Chrissi Harris said...

Amanda-
I loved seeing you and your hub on "Engaged"...I'm so happy that you stuck to your guns and got married in the temple! I've been LDS all of my life, but no one outside my immediate family (like grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins) is, so I can totally sympathize with the "Why can't we go in the temple" backlash. I'm happy for you guys- I wish you all the best!
Chrissi Harris

 
At February 28, 2007 at 9:42 PM , Blogger R. A. L. III. said...

1st of all Congratulations! And you are so rite!!! I may be a convert to the church but would never think of disrespecting a girl and marrying her anywhere but the temple!!

 
At February 28, 2007 at 9:42 PM , Anonymous MormonGurl1216 said...

Amanda - I think that you were very brave! I too want to get married in the temple someday! I also want to go to BYU. I have no idea which one though. Thanks for giving me some courage and thoughts of how to work things out!

- MormonGur1216

 
At February 28, 2007 at 9:42 PM , Blogger R. A. L. III. said...

1st of all Congratulations! And you are so rite!!! I may be a convert to the church but would never think of disrespecting a girl and marrying her anywhere but the temple!!

 
At February 28, 2007 at 9:59 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

We are getting real tired of asking.....WHAT DID YOU GIVE TO CHRIS' MOTHER A MONTH AFTER THE WEDDING WHEN THEY CAME OVER FOR DINNER?

 
At February 28, 2007 at 11:36 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Great blog... as another young mormom married couple to another... you guys did a great job. My husband grew up in the church, and I converted after highschool... your story sounds exactly like ours, only flipped!

 
At March 1, 2007 at 12:37 AM , Anonymous Kyrie Cheney said...

~You go girl!~ I saw your episode on mtv and was so inspired by you and standing up for a temple marriage! I'm am a mormon and could not dream of a better wedding then to be sealed and mariied in the temple! Congrats and thank you for your example of standing up for wht you feel is right!

 
At March 1, 2007 at 12:39 AM , Blogger Bailey said...

I loved what you had to say about being married in the temple. Ever since day one I have told myself I will never settle for anything less than the temple. I am so excited for that day when I can live up to my standards and share eternity with the one I love. Thank you for your great example. Best of Luck!

 
At March 1, 2007 at 12:55 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi I am happy to see that you didn't let anyone change your mind on how you wanted YOUR wedding yes it is a big day for Chris also but come on everyone knows it is pretty much about the woman. Anyway way to stand your ground my only question is what did you give to chris' mom after you get married my curiosity is up and I can't find it on here.

 
At March 1, 2007 at 1:07 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congrats on your wedding. I got married at a week old 18 year old and yes I am still married and have been for almost 3 years now. Just a word of advice listen and communicate to one another. That is the biggest truth to what makes a marriage work. I just want you two to realize that family is all you have and yes church is huge to you and I respect that but family will be there for you no matter what. You are what makes the marriage work. So work hard for your marriage and you will be married forever.

 
At March 1, 2007 at 7:22 AM , Blogger Mandymoo said...

I agree with you 100%. I think you did a great job on having the church look in the right light witht the show and I respect you two for going out on the limb to show everyone what it is like. I am married in the temple and it was the biggest accomplishment of my life. Good job you guys and congratulations!

 
At March 1, 2007 at 7:24 AM , Blogger Mandymoo said...

I just wanted to say congratulations! I was married in the temple and it was the biggest accomplishment in my life. I never thought I could get there but with all the odds, I did. My husband and I have had some rough times since but it keeps our bond strong and to remember the promises that were made. Great job on the show!

 
At March 1, 2007 at 10:50 AM , Anonymous Miranda said...

Hello, I too was married at a young age. I got married to my husband when I was 18 years old. Everyone said that we were too young too, but we didn't pay any of that any attention. Now we have been married for almost 7 years and we have 3 beautiful children. God has been so wonderful to us. I believe that if you want to get married to someone, the only thing that matters is the love the both of you have for each other, not your age, or religion. What I want to know is what did you give to Chris' mom?

 
At March 1, 2007 at 10:59 AM , Anonymous Kelly said...

First of all congratulations on the wedding! That is a great thing you did. Im 19 and getting married in SLC temple in July. Im very excited!! Im worried also about my family (im a convert). I really liked your ring ceremony, the way it seemed like it achieved the idea of the wedding for the rest of the family. I told my fiancees mom about it, because I wanted to do mine that way. Good luck on the new life!

 
At March 1, 2007 at 4:38 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

what did you give your mother in law at the end of the show ive looked all over and havent found that answer

 
At March 1, 2007 at 9:17 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

First Congratulations!
Second, I wish I had your courage. I lived in UT for 1 yr and became interested in the LDS church. I researched and read the Book of Morman in conjunction with the Bible and have been inspired. I have not pursued it further because of my husband, he would think i lost my mind and not be supportive and my family who would think the same. I admire you.

Liz M

 
At March 1, 2007 at 10:33 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

My fiance is also a convert to the LDS church. He will be married for one year when we get married in the temple in November. We will also be doing a ring ceremony, but I was unsure of what to do. Your story gave me some good ideas for what I can do with our wedding. I am so thankful for your story because I really saw a lot of the same challenges that my fiance and I are facing. You guys are great examples to me and my future husband. Thanks!

 
At March 1, 2007 at 10:51 PM , Blogger Megan B. said...

I loved watching your show. I even watched it a second time tonight with my husband. I had family that couldn't be there for my sealing, and I know how stressful that can be. You were just overloaded with all that stress. And like you said, being engaged does suck. It was one of the most stressful times of my life. Good luck to you two. You're a wonderful couple.

 
At March 2, 2007 at 6:55 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Amanda what did you and chris give to his mother

 
At March 2, 2007 at 8:16 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

What did you give Chris's mom a month after the wedding?

 
At March 2, 2007 at 11:06 AM , Anonymous DeAnna said...

I think that it is amazing what you guys went through and that your husbands family wasn't lds but you did an amazing job getting everyone together and being able to see some part of the wedding. I'm LDS and you to are such a strong couple it really strengthens me knowing a couple can make it if one side of thfamily isn't mormon. Thanks foro sharing your wedding experiences with me. I"m so glad you stuck to your beliefs and married in the temple. Some day I want to be married in the temple as well and can't wait. Thanks again so much

 
At March 4, 2007 at 9:40 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think a lot of people forget that a wedding is only one day, a marriage is supposed to be forever. If you can put as much thought and effort into the marriage as you did for the wedding, you'll be okay. Good luck.

 
At March 4, 2007 at 7:32 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think its great that you got married in the temple i want to get married in the temple some day too! i thought it was nice of you to give Chris's mom the necklas you wore in your wedding.

 
At March 4, 2007 at 8:07 PM , Anonymous Sarah said...

You say being married in the temple is truly the most important part. Funny, I thought the act of marriage and your love for your significant other was the idea behind a wedding. If you love your husband, why did you force him to be separated from his family on a day that was important for him as well? I echo his mother: what sort of religion rejoices in the demeaning of others, and what kind of god do you worship that gives you the authority to decide who is "worthy" enough to witness your religious practices?

 
At March 4, 2007 at 10:44 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congratulations! I was so excited when I watched this show and heard you were getting married in the temple!!! I was so impressed that you stood true to your standards! You are such a great example to all those who watch this show! Iam a convert and have wanted to get married in the temple ever since I joined the church! I have had some tough times and almost lowered my standards, but after seeing how you stood true to yours I know that I will never lower my standards again and do what I know is right! Thanks for being a great example! Congrats you two!!!

 
At March 4, 2007 at 11:15 PM , Anonymous Heather Hales said...

It was so awsome to see SLC on mtv. I live about an hour away from there (in wasatch) and I am too mormon. I was a little nervous when I heard that they talked about the temple, but the way it was done was very recpectful. Thank you guys so much for giving the LDS religion a good name. Watching the show got me so excited to get married in the temple. Thanks again,
Heather Hales

 
At March 4, 2007 at 11:50 PM , Blogger Cassandra said...

Hey I really enjoyed watching someone of the same belief as me. I have been struggling a lot... but watching you two made me want to try harder to have a temple marriage too. Thank you for your example!

 
At March 9, 2007 at 2:41 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

First Congras I have been married to my "sweetie" for way longer than any of you and I was 19, It can be a wonderful life. I just hope in the future Amanda you let your mother-in-law have her way and you can smile thru it!!!!

 
At March 9, 2007 at 10:23 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congrats! I really enjoyed watching the show! I'll be getting married in the San Diego Temple in June and ever since I saw you two on the show I am more excited than ever! Congrats again!!

 
At March 10, 2007 at 7:26 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Im glad that you all decided to do a ceremony for his family, because if the shoe were on the other foot and your family could not come to your wedding, how would your mom and dad feel not seeing their only child get married. Apparently you all must have your own Bible and worship your own God, because when I last looked, the Lord gave his only begotten son for everyone, and not just mormons

 
At March 14, 2007 at 2:21 PM , Anonymous Marcie said...

Amanda and Chris....I just finished watching a rerun of your episode on MTV and sat there the whole time telling my husband about the reflecting pool at the SLC Temple. Then you showed it...YAY....so he didn't think i was as insane. I come from an LDS famliy but i am not LDS....i love and respect my family and their decisions to get married in the temple. I last went to my cousins wedding in 2005 and took the time to go through the visitors center before we greeted them as man and wife. I did do my wedding my own way and give a shout to all those women who do that also.....Beautiful wedding and i hope you guys have a happy life and eternity together ;)

 
At March 14, 2007 at 2:42 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Amanda- I agree with you that getting married in the temple is something that is extremely important and you should never give that up. I'm glad that you didn't. It is one of my dreams too. I thought however that you were being extremely selfish about "your" wedding, it's his wedding too and his family should have a part in it as well. I thought you threw a stupid little fit about the ring ceremony. You were getting what you wanted, why was it such a big deal to give his family something special with the wedding to remember? I was glad to see you did allow his sisters to read their poems, otherwise that would have been pretty jacked up if you hadn't. It is your wedding, but it is also his. Just remember that.

 
At March 18, 2007 at 9:04 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I watched your episode for the second time, and I think it is really a great accomplishment to have your wedding done in the religion you have devoted your life to. However, I thought it was really sad that his mom couldn't be there to witness her son get married. That is a vision every mother has for their children. I hope that as parent's one day that the both of you will not have to endure that pain!

 
At March 22, 2007 at 7:06 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

i THINK THAT YOU TWO ARE THE BEST COUPLE i HAVE SEEN ON THIS SHOW AND YOU ARE TRULY INSPRATIONAL

 
At April 13, 2007 at 2:09 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Amanda,
I just want to wish you and Chris my blessings on your marriage. Do not pay any attention to the naysayers. Just keeping on loving in each other and being supportive of each other. Because when you start listening to everybody negative talk, then that is when it all goes down hill.

 
At April 15, 2007 at 10:48 AM , Blogger Christa said...

Are you glad you did the ring ceremony?

 

Post a Comment

Subscribe to Post Comments [Atom]

<< Home